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lasiren 48 F
2  Articles
Identify an potentially bad idea   6/23/2021

I just want to alert the women here.

I met someone on this site, who seemed like a sweet, sane person. He has a very popular profile, and has many regular visitors to his pages. Initially, I felt pretty honored that he found me attractive. We had a couple of dates, and a lot of email and texting. Due to problems with schedules and proximity, this relationship did not work out for me. I ...


18 Comments, 813 Views, 63 Votes ,7.81 Score
newriverrafter78 45 M
0  Articles
Large Marge was hungry for me...and I was scared   6/19/2021

When I was 22 I met a woman on yahoo. She went by the name Nona. Now Nona claimed to be 35, single, living alone, etc. Her profile had said that "Nona loves roses". We talked for a bit, mainly me talking dirty and her humoring me. She was even kind enough to send me almost a dozen pictures of herself in various positions, some with clothes, some without. I was convinced that Nona was my ...


15 Comments, 761 Views, 54 Votes ,7.81 Score
Uncut penis   6/29/2021

I am FRIGHTENED of non-circumcised members. They are heinous looking as opposed to circumcised ones which as sleek and functional. Why don't people circumcise their anymore? If for nothing else, do it for their sex life. Do other women find uncut ones disgusting?


21 Comments, 403 Views, 47 Votes ,0.41 Score
tauntress10 45 F
2  Articles
Expectations vs No Expectations   5/19/2019

There is maybe a perception that all messages deserve a response. However, as a woman who chooses to interact in an adult forum online, I would suggest maybe less emphasis is placed on the recipient responding and perhaps the senders have less expectations. I would take the attitude, if a message of mine is not responded to they are not interested or simply too busy. As I too have messaged ...


12 Comments, 182 Views, 43 Votes ,3.46 Score
mandy4you2use 71 F
6  Articles
i wanted to but?   7/22/2016

after letting the very have me one of them rang my phone at 9 pm a few nights later and ask to come to my home, I was unsure as to tell him where I lived but as I was feeling randy I gave him my address, I raced to shower before he arrived as I wanted to be nice and fresh for what I hoped would come, when the bell rang I couldn't wait to open the door even though I was naked as I pulled it open ...


8 Comments, 596 Views, 41 Votes ,6.69 Score
silura99 40 F
3  Articles
Do you really accept a "no, thank you"?   4/15/2019

I see a few people asking why can't women just say "no, thank you" instead of not replying? Well, here's this, not all people take gracefully. Some decide to berate you or to continually contact you after you've declined. I've had to say no to the same individuals multiple times until I've had to block them. Is okay? If someone doesn't respond to me, I take ...


11 Comments, 112 Views, 39 Votes ,2.99 Score
rm_nympho4sale 49 F
1  Article
stalkers on the internet   6/17/2021

ok how come you start talking to what apprears to be a normal guy, and he turns into a freak. i started talking to this guy who seem perfectly normal. we were talking about things we do in and out of bed and what we want from our lives. the next thing i know he was emailing me everyday. he told me he wanted me to have his , and he even picked out names for them. we'd talked for a week and ...


4 Comments, 564 Views, 35 Votes ,4.30 Score
clubg24 82 C
1  Article
JUST SAY "NO".   10/8/2015

Some people are just so sweet hearted that even on a sex site they have difficulty saying NO to someone who is trying to get them into bed. No one enjoys being rejected but...for something as serious as giving my body to someone for their pleasure and me indulging in theirs I feel a need to be extremely picky. Maybe if you don't get many invites and you are desperate to get laid your expectations ...


16 Comments, 155 Views, 31 Votes ,6.50 Score
Khmeii 56 F
1  Article
Hey guys, chill please   9/12/2019

You log on to AdultFriendFinder and get all excited. All these pics with flirty usernames. So many hot women and couples. You get on IM and start browsing, messaging women, sending flirts, requesting friends. Ready to have fun. And then... nothing. <br><br> Babe, I want to let you know that it has nothing to do with you. I mean, don't take it personally. Women on AdultFriendFinder are outnumbered 20:1. We ...


3 Comments, 88 Views, 29 Votes ,3.64 Score
What is wrong With People   7/29/2019

Is is so hard to just say no thank you I am not interested. I had invested some time and effort into communicating with someone. My husband said he might be interested in a couples sort of situation. So I shared that. After multiple communications and trying to arrange a time to meet. I extended multiple invitations including drinks with our spouses and then to a swing party. I had assumed he ...


4 Comments, 83 Views, 29 Votes ,4.04 Score
Colby822 41 F
1  Article
A female perspective on saying "No thanks."   6/16/2018

There are so many articles on here about "just tell us you're not interested" and how "ignoring someone is rude." <br><br> As a woman on here, I get a lot of messages and IMs. In fact, I always try to turn off IMs when I first log on because I just don't have the time or ability to reply to every, single message I get. It's not meant to be rude... If I ...


8 Comments, 185 Views, 29 Votes ,5.65 Score
Truth or excuses?   6/18/2021

In life we seem to make excuses for everything we do. We never as a society or individual admit that we have serious flaws that harm every other person in the world daily. <br> I encourage people to have sex since so many people say it feels so wonderful. The interesting thing is... don't you think our laws should prohibit people to have unprotected sex? Many many people go out of ...


3 Comments, 13 Views, 28 Votes ,2.83 Score
Childish insults   7/22/2019

I am constantly amazed as what passes for mature behavior on this site. Recently a man sent a message, I politely said no thank you and (while not necessary )I explained why. His response was write an insult. For the men complain that women don't respond your emails or instant messages this is part of the reason. Just because we are also using this site does not mean we don't want ...


10 Comments, 91 Views, 28 Votes ,4.88 Score
Being pushy   10/10/2018

Why are the single men in here so damn pushy not all but definitely came across a few of them


7 Comments, 68 Views, 28 Votes ,4.78 Score
sexaddictdon 66 M
31  Articles
Is being crazy contagious? - There is always a price you must pay!   11/16/2016

While riding the train downtown last evening (yes we now have light rail trains in and around Los Angeles) to the Lakers / Brooklyn Nets game(at Staples Center) my phone blew up (figuratively not literally) with texts from not one but two former booty calls. What was strange is both of the booty calls have from time to time tried to reconnect with me a time or two in the past. I have ...


4 Comments, 144 Views, 27 Votes ,5.45 Score
Worst "no"   12/18/2019

What would be the worst eay someone could say no?


1 Comments, 42 Views, 26 Votes ,2.70 Score
I_like_lollipos2 30 F
1  Article
help me please   8/3/2019

How does say no without sounding rude?


14 Comments, 85 Views, 26 Votes ,3.89 Score
reallythick0325 40 M
1  Article
why is it so hard for girls to just say no?   5/9/2019

I understand the possible stigma's or asshole-ish responses might get from jerks who think they are owed sex because (who knows why.) But Is it really hard, especially in a virtual setting, or in a , to just say "sorry, I changed my mind, " or flat out, "no." asking because I feel as though some women who did not tell me they had changed their minds and just decided to ...


4 Comments, 46 Views, 25 Votes ,0.59 Score
Points   8/18/2019

I think the point system needs fixing. If you're wanting to chat with someone and they just left the line or don't reply you're screwed out of points


7 Comments, 66 Views, 24 Votes ,5.86 Score
gandchodh 39 M
3  Articles
It's best to say no instead of creating   2/7/2018

I use this site frm almost eight years and found here a lot of fake ID's. And many mention they are here for real fun but when any one contact them they said they are here for fun but they were passing their tym.with chat only. So I think it's better to say no instead of making other fool.


1 Comments, 36 Views, 24 Votes ,6.65 Score
Mrmster89 33 M
1  Article
I find hard to say no as a man...   12/10/2019

I find that if we say no as a male sometimes girls can get very mad like if it direspectful. But its that at all, sometimes we are just over tired from a bad day at work and we are exhausted...


7 Comments, 60 Views, 23 Votes ,3.36 Score
kinkycplfl8283 32 C
1  Article
Hypocrits or sore losers?   6/22/2021

I consider myself to be semi attractive and pretty damn nice. So much to my dismay when my hubby and I have said "no thanks" to some people (and not just on this site) people have gotten nasty and said some hateful things. One single male actually went so far as to call me a , another one said my husband must be controlling me, and another couple, after us telling them kindly they just weren't ...


5 Comments, 175 Views, 22 Votes ,6.97 Score
MercedCouple209 52 C
47  Articles
So you think you can fuck me better?   12/6/2019

Just because you comment on my video that you can fuck me better dont mean you ever will because I have a conection with my man and thats something you will never have with me so that kind of comment want get you anything but blocked


4 Comments, 44 Views, 22 Votes ,2.29 Score
Needtoeatit6969 45 M
1  Article
Response on IM   6/19/2019

Why is it that 80% of the people on IM don’t respond at all? If you’re not interested say so, don’t just leave someone to wonder if the P.O.S. Messenger app is actually sending their messages


9 Comments, 48 Views, 21 Votes ,3.00 Score
barracuda05 54 M
5  Articles
Does it hurt ot have proper manners?   1/27/2019

So, I was sitting here thinking, 'How hard is it really to just reply and say "No Thank You, I'm (We're) not interested." <br><br> I know there are people who will be ultimately be idiots and not take the simple straight forward hint, but those should be the exception and not the norm. <br><br> If we all were to make a concerted effort to be more ...


8 Comments, 42 Views, 21 Votes ,3.99 Score
mahesh1975foru 43 M
1  Article
Woman looking for money   9/4/2018

Lot of woman on the site who are looking just for money. Not as a result of a friendship here but as the criteria to have friendship.


9 Comments, 57 Views, 21 Votes ,4.24 Score
Yankees51841 45 M
5  Articles
No thanks   12/19/2019

No thanks for for points


1 Comments, 25 Views, 20 Votes ,1.85 Score
Not what you thought   12/10/2019

Have you met anyone that didnt look like there profile pic.


3 Comments, 33 Views, 20 Votes ,2.87 Score
MercedCouple209 52 C
47  Articles
Married Cheating Men And Woman   12/6/2019

Well mostly men in this case <br><br> I dont care if you want to cheat on your spouse for what ever reason <br><br> Thats on you and the karma that comes with it <br><br> But the 1st thing we do when talking with someone on here is let them know thats a deal breaker and will not meet cheating men and woman <br><br> But you must really be a special ...


3 Comments, 48 Views, 20 Votes ,2.36 Score
Mrmagnum1973 41 M
21  Articles
I miss her   5/19/2019

Her husband dosnt let her anymore but weve become friends do u think she will suck and fuck me again?


1 Comments, 31 Views, 20 Votes ,1.59 Score
Taking no for an answer   11/8/2018

Why can’t men jus take no for answer? I myself respect it when a woman says no and I leave her alone. I have heard men and talked to men that say they will not take no for an answer and they will continue to push to get what they want. Men should just respect it when a woman tells them no. How many of you out there agree with this?


3 Comments, 34 Views, 20 Votes ,3.64 Score
tiredofthegames6 33 F
4  Articles
why do so few do this...?   5/12/2018

Why do so few people have the courtesy to say a simple "no thanks" as opposed to just ignoring a chat request?


9 Comments, 69 Views, 20 Votes ,3.64 Score
Justguy101 45 M
14  Articles
Filtered pics   12/17/2019

I love flirting finding that little cute spark exchange pics.your really turn on into person your chatting with then final comes day your going to meet up then.. then you meet up find person you was chatting with looks nothing like person in pic.. Then you’re grossed out. Then you’re feeling deceived and pissed pissed.. please people stop trying to pretend be ten win your really 2 That really ...


3 Comments, 42 Views, 19 Votes ,2.86 Score
Bohunter81 50 M
1  Article
Manners   8/21/2019

I have been told no thanks before and it’s no big deal. I know I’m not everyone’s type. I’ve told others no thanks before. We all have different tastes. Please use manners and respect other’s preferences. It’s not personal to you, and you may even win someone over being polite. No name calling or rude comments, just excuse yourself politely.


2 Comments, 26 Views, 19 Votes ,2.46 Score
Tpayne01 40 M
5  Articles
Such A Simple Reply...   8/6/2019

On here there tends to be a lot of profiles. Now when one does Seem to be authentic and is sent a genuine, Polite instant message they do not reply. Now I know what most say about the guys to last ratio and how most ladies are just so overwhelmed with IMs. However they are notified about a New IM. Now the normal proper and polite thing to do is to at least respond with a "No Thanks" or ...


6 Comments, 45 Views, 19 Votes ,2.99 Score
jackswallowsit 66 M
5  Articles
Not 'no thanks' but 'can't now' ....   4/10/2019

I normally have to plan my playtimes, for very specific days and hours. Frequently I get into conversations with guys who get very rude when I can't drop things and ' now' to take care of their wants. not turning them down, just letting them know I have time constraints, like most folks have. I get every response from the usual 'you're missing a good thing' to the ...


3 Comments, 35 Views, 19 Votes ,1.41 Score
n2udeep00 44 M
5  Articles
If they are not your type.   9/4/2018

How do you say no without hurting anyone's feelings?


5 Comments, 50 Views, 19 Votes ,3.65 Score
SAY NO THANKS AND RUN WHEN...   10/15/2016

Hi my fellow AdultFriendFinder brother and sisters,

I want to offer some friendly advice, not only to men but to women too. Please beware of the little foxes and wolves on this site who are on here targeting us innocent people on here just trying to have fun and meet great people.

We have to remember that some people are on here with BAD and DESTRUCTIVE motives. Be sure to keep ...


4 Comments, 82 Views, 19 Votes ,7.08 Score
girly4girlyfun 48 F
1  Article
I agree with something SensuousShades said.....   5/1/2015

If I am approached in a polite respectful manner....I will likely respond in the same way. You get what you give.

If you repeatedly email me "hey lets fuck", "me in ur pussy" Or "come suck my cock"... You will get nothing from me. Honestly, I don't "owe" anyone anything if I don't even know them. That's part of the territory in this community. If you don't get a response......don't be ...


6 Comments, 62 Views, 19 Votes ,7.21 Score
funcouplerus2 40 C
5  Articles
No thanks.   10/15/2014

Do single guys realize that most women and couples get hit repeatedly every day with stupid emails from single guys? We have jobs we don't need another one answering all the stupid stuff that comes our way. Oh and here's an idea try writing things that make sense and that don't reek of coming from an 11 year old.


12 Comments, 77 Views, 19 Votes ,4.84 Score
Ignored on messenger   9/14/2019

Great conversation. Things really seemed to click then nothing. That ever happen to anyone else?


7 Comments, 41 Views, 18 Votes ,2.44 Score
95hondacivic 51 M
8  Articles
not trying to be rude   8/7/2019

I am getting a lot of message request from people who i'm not interested in. I just say thank you but i'm not interested and people get offended and message back rude things. Does anyone else have this problem? If so, what do you do?


4 Comments, 40 Views, 18 Votes ,3.53 Score
baseball2657 66 C
4  Articles
Wondering Mind   4/7/2019

My mind wonders. Could I be Bi-sexual.I like a like looking dicks and sometimes get excited. I throb when I watch.


3 Comments, 50 Views, 18 Votes ,1.62 Score
psylckr520 40 M
3  Articles
a simple "no thank you"   1/21/2019

A simple "not interested" would be better as opposed to being ignore, but whatevs. <br><br> p.s. this is for points


5 Comments, 38 Views, 18 Votes ,3.67 Score
polite people   1/28/2018

I know this is a pay site and prohibitive to people who aren't paying. I would just like people to tell me they're no interested instead of seeing a pic and ghosting. I am an adult. it's not like we all haven't had rejection in our lives. <br><br> please just communicate. <br><br> Thank you


8 Comments, 42 Views, 18 Votes ,4.22 Score
sweetness9001 71 F
1  Article
Please if you can read my whole profile   10/8/2017

It seems I am having to say no thanks to a number of men simply because they can't or don't read my whole profile. I am a young 65 year old who does prefer a younger man. As my profile states though please no one under 30 or over 55. It is not that difficult to understand yet I am having to say no thank you to a number of men. I am always polite say hello then tell them sorry no the ...


10 Comments, 118 Views, 18 Votes ,4.76 Score
To thank or not to thank   11/6/2014

I use to love going on the IM but I rarely do now because all it turns into is a steady stream of vulgar come ons from every jerk ever put on this site. I not only don't say no thanks I ignore them altogether and let them wonder if their IM is working.


6 Comments, 63 Views, 18 Votes ,5.85 Score
MorganJ 53 F
1  Article
Since you asked...   9/30/2014

As I glanced at the articles on the Saying "No Thanks" page, I noticed that 5/12 of the articles on the first page were all regarding the fact that women here often don't give a polite 'no thank you" when emailed or IMed. I certainly don't expect that posting my reason for not responding to those who contact me will make a dent in the future "why are women so rude" questions, but here goes ...


8 Comments, 113 Views, 18 Votes ,3.81 Score
Silence is deafening   11/15/2019

I know it’s not always possible to respond to every message if you’re not interested. I get it. And I will be respectful, and never be abusive. But even a quick little , “no thank you” really helps out sometimes. Does anyone agree?


8 Comments, 64 Views, 17 Votes ,4.82 Score
Should saying "No Thanks" or "Not interested" be a common courtesy!?   5/2/2019

I feel if someone takes the time to acknowledge you, you should be taking the time to acknowledge them back even if your not interested! Do others feel it is rude to not respond to a message sent to you? Or am I alone on this one?


7 Comments, 49 Views, 17 Votes ,2.42 Score
meincovky 47 M
4  Articles
Hello out there   12/2/2018

I get it that free members have limited chats, but once in a while just saying "no thanks" to someone is helpful if you are being messaged first. Does help with the process of not hitting them up again....


3 Comments, 26 Views, 17 Votes ,2.56 Score
mikeincentralvt 53 M
2  Articles
Why do most people ignore you rather than say no thanks?   2/6/2018

I'm not sure why there is such a hesitation to respond to a 'hello' on chat, but it seems that most people ignore you rather than say no thanks. Why is that? I try to respond to every person, regardless of sex or attraction just out of courtesy. I think it would make for better experience on this site if we did. <br><br> Thougts? Am I wrong?


5 Comments, 48 Views, 17 Votes ,5.11 Score
Male Head vs. Female Head   8/28/2015

This is a repost of an blog I did in 2012

I am just flabbergasted about a NSA that I had with a dude here on AdultFriendFinder. 1st of all he did not read my post. 2nd he was selfish and lazy. 3rd he wanted me to give him head but not return the favor. 4th he had the ordasity to get upset about it. 5th he still wanted to have sex after I left.

This is a 38 year old man (now he's ...


4 Comments, 82 Views, 17 Votes ,6.24 Score
rm_fun2play6709 46 F
1  Article
But they won't go away!   5/16/2015

I have met a few guys on this site. I usually message back and forth, then either make a decision whether I want to continue on or cut the ties. Behavior that is persistent, constantly messaging me on my phone while I'm asleep or at work...ugh! This is why when I get messages from guys I know there is not a chance in hell we will have any chemistry, I don't respond. I also have a message that ...


4 Comments, 71 Views, 17 Votes ,4.12 Score
SensuousShades 39 C
3  Articles
I suppose   3/18/2015

The way respond to unwanted emails or IMs is based on the request we've received. If the person messaging us is polite we'll respond with "thank you for your interested, but you aren't what we're looking for."

Sometimes people say things that we can't actually respond to so we leave those messages unanswered. Messages like "Hi, I want to cum on your face" don't get responses.


4 Comments, 68 Views, 17 Votes ,6.24 Score
DorianVampire 44 M
0  Articles
Some women can't take NO for an answer either...   6/12/2021

Ok, I want to tell you a little story. Its about a girl named Sarah I met on this site. Her profile has since been deleted so don't bother looking her up. <br> Anyway, a while back she sent me a message and we began to e-mail back and forth. She seemed cool, had some interesting view points, but was a bit scattered. Since I am not looking for hook ups I regarded the entire ...


4 Comments, 355 Views, 16 Votes ,6.51 Score
rejection   2/7/2019

how do you take rejection?


3 Comments, 40 Views, 16 Votes ,1.80 Score
Someone Else's F Shack   2/2/2019

This is something that happened several years ago. I started talking to a woman on here and hit it off very well. After some erotic chat and phone conversation, we decided to meet in person. It was very exciting, because we had some great conversation. <br><br> Since I had roommates, I couldn't host easily. She provided me with the option to meet her at her apartment. I agreed. I ...


1 Comments, 62 Views, 16 Votes ,2.10 Score
A lot of guys on here   2/1/2019

What i dont get is how or why guys hit me up with stuff like-- let me suck your dick and I try to be nice and say not my style and then get pissed. Its making me respond like more of dick that I want, but only way to get left alone.


6 Comments, 42 Views, 16 Votes ,2.83 Score
luvgluv19 75 M
28  Articles
Say it firmly but politely   8/7/2018

If you are saying "NO THANKS" Say it with conviction but not with harsh words. Understood some people simply don't get it because in their minds eye they are the most desirable of all partners. If they get TOO persistant Block them


2 Comments, 22 Views, 16 Votes ,3.42 Score
1couple4fwbs 45 C
3  Articles
Try to be nice to everyone.   7/24/2018

We get a lot of messages from others that we are not interested in. I always try and tell them that we are not interested but appreciate them taking the time to us. Our response is thanks for the message but we are not interested in you but wish you luck in your search. We have had some that say thanks you to. Then we have had some that get very offended and say mean things. I sorry but we are ...


4 Comments, 65 Views, 16 Votes ,5.33 Score
Jayr658 51 M
3  Articles
We are too busy right now   3/16/2018

So when you meet someone and you agree to meet a second time and they suddenly are too busy right now to meet, I get the hint. I’m a pretty straight forward person, don’t people have the ability to simply say not interested? Seems like middle school behavior. My feelings won’t be hurt, just tell it like it is. Curious what others think.


4 Comments, 32 Views, 16 Votes ,2.83 Score
King_Sol 50 M
1  Article
When you chat and find out the truth   1/5/2018

It’s tough when you see a pic for the first time after chatting a while, but it’s always best to be hst.


6 Comments, 59 Views, 16 Votes ,4.16 Score
izzynshe 68 C
1  Article
Manners   1/23/2017

We recently became members to this site... We have gotten several flirts, emails, and our profile has been viewed by many. We have been busy checking out profiles that fit what we are looking for and I must say we enjoy and are having fun already.. However there are a couple of single men that have commented and sent us emails and we have found that even though we didnt request single men they ...


7 Comments, 142 Views, 16 Votes ,4.89 Score
Lunallia 28 F
1  Article
Taking "no" for an answer: A How-To Guide   7/15/2015

There are many, many people who breach our inboxes everyday, sending all sorts of stuff.

First of all, I'll respond to a message with just "hi", before responding to someone saying what they want to do to me. It's called respect. If I turn you down-take it the first time. Don't try to keep getting me to say yes. I've made my mind up. It's not going to get changed. So please, when I deny ...


1 Comments, 54 Views, 16 Votes ,5.48 Score
Ellsfun43 38 M
5  Articles
Points   12/26/2019

No thanks. Just need points


3 Comments, 26 Views, 15 Votes ,3.59 Score
Couple2Grow69 39 C
8  Articles
Boundries   12/6/2019

How important are broundries for you?


4 Comments, 43 Views, 15 Votes ,3.90 Score
strogen69 52 M
5  Articles
Common courtesy?   11/15/2019

Is it me or have the younger generation aka 24 and younger not been taught common courtesy? When you send a message on IM here to the younger generation, it seems like half of them never respond. Ladies... even if you're not interested in chatting, it's called common courtesy to at least respond back either way. Not interested? Totally fine, but could you take 30 seconds to respond back ...


7 Comments, 57 Views, 15 Votes ,1.91 Score
ChrisIsbell2 27 M
5  Articles
Replies   7/31/2019

I wish women would just say no thanks instead of saying nothing all. Do you agree?


5 Comments, 41 Views, 15 Votes ,3.28 Score
Chench090 31 M
3  Articles
Wasting points   6/10/2019

Why do we even have points if thet never txt u bak its so stupid i dnt even know why i keep wasting points for.


2 Comments, 24 Views, 15 Votes ,3.44 Score
dickmeh9 37 M
1  Article
Funny. "Saying no thanks" was gonna be my title.   4/29/2019

You know what I truly enjoy? Hitting on dudes I know are gonna be uncomfortable when I do so. Not cause I expect a positive response, but because the negative responses lead to my favorite thing to tell a dude: 's how you make women feel. I especially love to do this after witnessing them making an ass out of themselves when hitting on one of my friends. <br><br> This applies to ...


2 Comments, 22 Views, 15 Votes ,0.99 Score
lookn4fun482 45 M
1  Article
how to say not interested   10/27/2018

i have come across a few that i wasnt interested or they werent interested i dont have a problem saying it but you have some that juust end up disappearing instead of saying there not interested is it that hard for some to actually say it and be truthful


2 Comments, 28 Views, 15 Votes ,3.28 Score
Maks1960 63 M
3  Articles
why cant people   6/26/2017

Every time I try chatting most will not answer. If they are not interested why cant they say so.


10 Comments, 73 Views, 15 Votes ,1.75 Score
sexaddictdon 66 M
31  Articles
An older man and the younger woman .....   5/20/2016

Half-your-age-plus-seven. This formula has somehow become the definitive rule for the youngest age of a woman a man can date.

So a 59-year old guy can date a 36/37-year old girl. No problem there. But if she’s 30 years old…I am now called a pervert or creepy guy.

Okay, maybe that’s an exaggeration. But still so many people in ...



9 Comments, 242 Views, 15 Votes ,3.90 Score
lookin4funinBC9 58 M
2  Articles
At least say No!   3/13/2015

Just wish if you contact someone they would say No! Saying nothing is worse.


9 Comments, 105 Views, 15 Votes ,4.36 Score
MercedCouple209 52 C
47  Articles
How many times do you have to say no thanks!   12/6/2019

Sorry I am not into BBC <br><br> And I am not into 18 year old boys and dont care how big your dick is <br><br> But how many times must I say no thanks before I just get tired and block you? <br><br> Well it was about 10 this time


2 Comments, 34 Views, 14 Votes ,2.02 Score
Fido3429 49 M
8  Articles
Try and be polite   11/7/2019

Rejection sucks, the worst rejection is when you get no response after talking to someone. At least if you don't want to get together, have the kindness to tell them.


1 Comments, 25 Views, 14 Votes ,3.78 Score
also happens to men   9/22/2019

i was with a married woman, gorgeous, great figure and smile. she made me feel so comfortable i let her control and dom me. <br><br> we were probably 1 hour into it and she decides to tie me up and blindfold me. <br><br> i wasnt sure but she convinced me <br><br> she was erotically touching and licking my body, especially my nipples then she started rimming me. ...


4 Comments, 35 Views, 14 Votes ,1.22 Score
domkoenig 54 M
12  Articles
trust   9/14/2019

when someone close to u wants to get involved, a friends wife, i think ts the ultimate betrayal, u lose ur friendship and ur friend , so that time came for me , i said no thanks, but i never saw his wife in the same way again ever i had to turn down temptation , as hard as it was, and at times almost impossible , due to the fact it was put on a plate for u , so i turned it down flat. its much ...


1 Comments, 24 Views, 14 Votes ,1.86 Score
elenaphant 30 F
2  Articles
Reading Messages = Viewing Profile???   9/5/2019

I'm running into so many problems with members I'm not interested in, because they send me messages and I read them, which gives them the notification that I "viewed their profile" when I literally don't know who the fuck they are.... Then some people call me on it saying shit like "what, you shy?" "I see you're looking at my profile, why won't you say ...


7 Comments, 73 Views, 14 Votes ,3.46 Score
sonrising54 57 M
9  Articles
Older Guy Uh No   8/7/2019

I had a conversation with a guy online a few months back. He showed me pictures of his perfect ripped body. Very sexy needless to say. Told me he had glowing white teeth and woman have complimented him on his neat overall appearance. This conversation went on for at least 2 months before I finally decided to meet him. He lived about 3 hours away so I agreed to get a motel room and wait for him. I ...


6 Comments, 74 Views, 14 Votes ,2.82 Score
Txmedic79423 50 M
2  Articles
Why is it so hard?   2/5/2019

I know not everyone is going to want to meet up, or even chat. But why can't people at least be civil and say they're not interested? sure this topic has been discussed ad nauseum, but it's really been burr in my saddle lately.


4 Comments, 28 Views, 14 Votes ,1.70 Score
anotherfamousduo 54 C
1  Article
Don't be rude!   1/8/2019

I prefer responding to say "no thanks" rather than ignore someone. No one likes to be ignored.!


7 Comments, 57 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
Now I know what the ladies feel like around here;)   12/31/2018

a straight guy just as my profile says. I respect all people's orientation mine is just mine. Notwithstanding my likes, I have repeatedly received requests from some local guy to suck my cock on . I've ignored them all. Now the guy sent me a message to complain about my failure to respond. I mean read the profile, not your match. I like my cock too but this is a little over the ...


3 Comments, 38 Views, 14 Votes ,2.98 Score
zeustaz316 55 M
4  Articles
why can't the women on hear juat say not interested   9/2/2018

what's up with the girls on hear they start talking ask for pics and then just stop if they are not interested why not just say that it is not a big deal just called manners and being polite


5 Comments, 39 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
SFFunguy658 53 M
3  Articles
Code for not interested   1/18/2018

So what are some of the phrases you use or hear when some is not interested. <br><br> The most common I’ve heard from couples is, “we are too busy right now”. Has any else ever heard that?


2 Comments, 39 Views, 14 Votes ,3.30 Score
Lukin4allofU 59 M
13  Articles
Is it so difficult?   7/2/2017

Whenever I make contact to anyone, If I am not going to enjoy time with them... 1. I don't lead them on 2. I am always polite 3. If asked to get together, it's easy to refuse and let the (person or individual) know I will not be meeting them.

Sooo, why is it so difficult for other to do that? Many members I have found do not ever let you know, we are not a match!

Shameful!!!! ...


1 Comments, 22 Views, 14 Votes ,3.30 Score
nerdygirl721 34 F
2  Articles
Sorry, Ill have to decline   8/15/2016

I have no problem responding back, even if I dont want a meet and greet. But sometimes I may want to still talk. So many guys on here are so focus on the meet and greet that they miss out on other opportunities. Like phone sex, I would be open to that or playing sex games on the IM. Not everytime you message a girl will lead to an physical encounter, but at least there is still fun to be had.


2 Comments, 43 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
TabithaBeau 48 F
1  Article
being Gentle   3/23/2016

my own policy when it comes to turning someone down on an adult site is simply to say, no thank you, thank you for understanding. There is no advantage at a point of rejection to be offering specific excuses, as it only creates a defensive situation.


5 Comments, 37 Views, 14 Votes ,5.06 Score
Lizzy6969 54 F
2  Articles
Doesn't matter how you say it..........   2/26/2016

It doesn't matter how you say it, the person on the other end 95% of the time gets offended. Its a lose lose situation. I have said it so many different ways, changed my profile so hopefully they wouldn't even email me (that does't work, men look at pictures), I have even just deleted the emails being rude and not saying a word but that don't help either cause they continue to email ...


9 Comments, 79 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
jacobmille565565 34 M
3  Articles
They get there and they aren't what you expected   1/21/2016

Has anyone ran into the situation where you invited someone from AdultFriendFinder over with adult fun in mind only to find they are not as advertised? How did you handle this situation. I'm sure it is really awkward for everyone involved. Or maybe there was something that just turned you off when they finally got there. How did you handle saying "no thanks"?


6 Comments, 157 Views, 14 Votes ,4.74 Score
buckfuddy39 48 M
3  Articles
why bother   11/11/2014

I read a few comments about women politely declining men's advances here on AdultFriendFinder. After seeing some responses posted on Facebook and other sites, I'm not surprised women say nothing when approached - I've seen a LOT of nasty responses guys have made to a simple, "no".

Things like, "fuck you, you fat cunt"; "you're ugly anyway"; "I'm too good for you anyway"; "why the fuck are you on here ...


12 Comments, 126 Views, 14 Votes ,5.38 Score
rm_bobbysgirl72 36 C
2  Articles
Taking a break   6/16/2021

It came suddenly I'm sure for my husband but one night, I asked him how he would feel about suspending our AdultFriendFinder account temporarily. He asked why...my reply....I just want to take a break. It seemed like so much pressure to have sex with EVERYONE and that is NOT who I am or he is for that matter. I wanted to slow down and get back to us and remember what it was to feel passion instead of just ...


8 Comments, 262 Views, 13 Votes ,4.65 Score
strogen69 52 M
5  Articles
Younger women   1/10/2020

Is it really that hard to respond to instant messages and say sorry not interested in chatting or do women just like the attention?


7 Comments, 78 Views, 13 Votes ,3.65 Score
Not what you expected   12/7/2019

Has anyone chatted with someone on here and when you met they looked nothing like their picture.


4 Comments, 29 Views, 13 Votes ,3.98 Score
Difference   10/25/2019

A woman says no thanks to a guy and he can take it and move along. But a guy meets a woman has sex on NS basis and she can’t take no to anything more.


3 Comments, 26 Views, 13 Votes ,1.30 Score
Prylo193 40 M
5  Articles
Etiquette   9/17/2019

As a free member i wish i had a way to say thanks but no thanks when someone messages me


2 Comments, 18 Views, 13 Votes ,1.80 Score
Thanks but not interested   9/10/2019

Such a simple response to a polite hello. Very refreshing when someone responds. Perhaps manners don’t apply here. Or, is it the points system or the poor programming that causes folks to appear pushy or frigid? Either way. One lady actually replied as such to indicate that she was not interested. That was refreshing.


2 Comments, 25 Views, 13 Votes ,1.80 Score
Downtobusiness66 30 M
6  Articles
How to get men to stop messaging me   5/15/2019

I get messaged way more by men than women on here. I have my profile set as straight(women only) but somehow men are messaging me. Is there anyway I can put a spot to this. don’t have a problem with gay or bi people but it’s just not for . Any advice would be great because it’s getting ridiculous. Thanks


3 Comments, 33 Views, 13 Votes ,2.30 Score
ThickerThanILook 23 M
3  Articles
Pointers   5/1/2019

Just here for them points


2 Comments, 18 Views, 13 Votes ,2.47 Score
points   4/27/2019

points points points points points


1 Comments, 16 Views, 13 Votes ,1.13 Score
JoshRook7 27 M
4  Articles
Saying No Half-Way   1/23/2019

It really needs to be understood that just because you said "yes" to sex, doesn't mean you're obligated to continue. <br><br> People get uncomfortable. They have second-thoughts, lose interest, or just decide they aren't ready. <br><br> And that's totally okay. <br><br> This especially applies to women, but for everyone out there - you ...


2 Comments, 36 Views, 13 Votes ,2.98 Score
walkinbanana2 44 M
6  Articles
Watching   12/12/2018

I have to, on a weekly basis, have to turn down fucking a girl with her husband watching. This must be way more common than I thought.


3 Comments, 31 Views, 13 Votes ,2.14 Score
Saying "No Thanks"   5/23/2018

If someone writes you or even IMs you and you are not interested ... Please have the courtesy to say "no thanks" or "Sorry Im not interested". Dont keep them guessing if you are just busy. Thats how everyone on here gets annoyed and frustrated. Just a thought that might help others


5 Comments, 52 Views, 13 Votes ,3.31 Score
Enginary 33 M
39  Articles
ignorance   8/23/2017

she ignored me :\


1 Comments, 19 Views, 13 Votes ,5.83 Score
rm_goodsxwithu 53 C
10  Articles
Too much   11/12/2014

Saying no just got to be too much now we just ignore profiles that we're not interested in.


4 Comments, 71 Views, 13 Votes ,4.15 Score
swapping partner for a !   6/17/2021

We recently had chat with 1 gut who was up to arrange a swap. However, as the conversation panned out, it turned out the person he was gonna bring was in fact gonna be a . How could he expect us to agree to this exchange? His emotional connection with this female was totally non-existant, wheras me ands my partner have been together over 10 years. Sometimes, the politeness of the answer should be ...


4 Comments, 161 Views, 12 Votes ,6.16 Score
thefonz224 38 M
4  Articles
Is it better to be direct or slowly ghost someone?   11/15/2019

I prefer to be direct and told directly what someone is thinking.


5 Comments, 30 Views, 12 Votes ,2.45 Score
Pullmytrigger55 49 M
12  Articles
Free bonus   9/18/2019

I remember AdultFriendFinder use to give u credits or 40 day gold or something


1 Comments, 19 Views, 12 Votes ,2.09 Score
You Deserve to be Picky   7/8/2019

Don't do what I did. <br><br> As a young bi-curious guy on this site, my first experience that came from here was... mediocre to say the least. I didn't have prior experience sexually and I settled for the first man willing to suck me off just out of convenience. I thought I wouldn't get other offers. <br><br> So now, the image of a toothy blowjob from an obese ...


1 Comments, 23 Views, 12 Votes ,1.56 Score
Grewpetty 57 M
9  Articles
No means no   6/19/2019

It's not easy say "No Thanks", especially when the other person is interested and you aren't. I think some subtle attempts work best, with a final heart heart often the way.


1 Comments, 40 Views, 12 Votes ,0.86 Score
dan_is_wild2 49 M
5  Articles
Why i came here   3/16/2019

I came to this site after i lost my wife to cancer. I was a lost man who was spoiled and loved at same time. I am here to learn what women of today want and what i can bring from the past to today and still enjoy . But to my shock after 4 years of great marrage that some women not all women on here are only after Itune cards or other things to have me buy for them. But im not here to buy ...


4 Comments, 32 Views, 12 Votes ,1.74 Score
siouxceedee 60 M
2  Articles
Be nice   10/14/2018

It seems people contact people but say nothing... of they just start with nasty openings.. Seem even though this site is to meet people ... I think being nice should be standard.. <br><br> fee members or paid members should get the same respect <br><br> be smart be nice be safe


1 Comments, 20 Views, 12 Votes ,3.33 Score
smithjack81 39 M
1  Article
Why is it weird for guys to say "No thanks"   8/9/2018

Why is it weird when a guy turns down a girl? Maybe hes not attracted... girls can do it all the time, but a guy does it and theres something wrong with him.


4 Comments, 32 Views, 12 Votes ,2.98 Score
Slickgf2412 36 M
1  Article
Cam play   6/26/2018

Why is everyone so afraid


2 Comments, 19 Views, 12 Votes ,1.74 Score
ttazz316 58 M
8  Articles
why do women not reply   5/26/2018

most of the women i send messages to don't reply they could at least say not interested or no thanks


7 Comments, 62 Views, 12 Votes ,3.33 Score
Enginary 33 M
39  Articles
refused   8/23/2017

a horney girl needs me but I'm very busy these days , how can I gently refuse her ?


1 Comments, 21 Views, 12 Votes ,3.33 Score
Say No Gracefully   6/21/2015

If something is not working out, just let the other person know as soon as possible. When you tell them, be as gracious as possible. Thank then for what they have done for you in the past and/or pay them a compliment. Then, gently let them know that things are not working out, why they are not working out, and then tell them that things must end. When you tell them the reasons, try not to blame ...


5 Comments, 41 Views, 12 Votes ,5.98 Score
rm_robpsf415 27 M
12  Articles
Saying No   11/13/2014

How would you go about saying no thanks to someone who is incredibly persistent yet sweet at the same time?


10 Comments, 105 Views, 12 Votes ,3.86 Score
MovingOn001 64 M
7  Articles
The Best Way to Respond to "No Thanks" Replies   10/14/2014

Like anyone who has been on AdultFriendFinder for any length of time and has tried to make contact with someone, I have received my share of "Thanks, but No Thanks" replies. I have been told however, that my response to those "No Thanks" replies is quite different than what most women receive from those kinds of replies.

I am not rude or abusive to the woman who told me "No Thanks". I do not whine or ...


0 Comments, 68 Views, 12 Votes ,4.92 Score
Why does this seem to be so difficult....   9/21/2014

I can understand that a huge amount of requests are posted on this site especially in the chat rooms & IM, but so many people just don't have the time to reply with a polite "No Thanks", it's almost like everybody is in such a rush or seem to hold themselves in such a high esteem that it's below them to do so (you know who you are people, admit it). I was always brought up to be polite and it's ...


7 Comments, 84 Views, 12 Votes ,1.39 Score
Fitandhornyinwi 45 M
2  Articles
Why are people so rude?   10/13/2019

Seems like a lot of people haven’t mastered the art of saying “hey, not interested.” They either say something nasty or ignore you completely when they aren’t interested. I don’t get it. Did I somehow offend them by showing interest? I don’t get it at all. I’m 100% straight and have had bi/gay guys message me. I simply say “hey, not thing. Good luck.” They handle it just fine. ...


2 Comments, 24 Views, 11 Votes ,3.54 Score
Needfunu2 51 M
6  Articles
Being polite to single males?   9/24/2019

Which is better...telling a single male "No thanks" or just ignoring him?


5 Comments, 37 Views, 11 Votes ,1.11 Score
LastOneDown69 38 M
1  Article
Is it rude?   9/10/2019

I've meet a few people and turned all but 2 down in person. They obviously weren't the type of person they said they were in their profile. Many of them take offense, why? If you want to a chicken and someone brought a duck you wouldn't accept it either. Come on now, right?


1 Comments, 23 Views, 11 Votes ,3.54 Score
theattu 27 M
2  Articles
points   4/7/2019

just here for the points


3 Comments, 17 Views, 11 Votes ,3.17 Score
Not wanting to meet   2/19/2019

I have always said honesty is the best policy unless you are cheating. If you make a date after meeting a person and then decide it is not for you, do you ghost them or be honest and say no thanks after more thought i am not looking for what you offer? It sounds so lame via text.


3 Comments, 44 Views, 11 Votes ,3.17 Score
6ftsexyFun 35 M
3  Articles
Bots! What’s up with the Bots?   9/19/2018

Okay so I can’t stand bots on sites. They drive me crazy! When your using a sit and you have to pay for sending messages, it really sucks when you start chatting with a bot, and don’t realize it at first. Why? Why do they do this? In all honesty I know why, but come on? Really?


2 Comments, 23 Views, 11 Votes ,3.73 Score
Just Say I'm Not Interested   7/8/2018

I am trying to figure out why ladies won't say they are not interested. Instead some choose to not answer respectful approaches from a gentleman. This is very irritating. Most men can accept when they are not wanted, and is told so. Ladies I know you can do better. It's only a select few. Unfortunately some men think with the wrong head. .


4 Comments, 39 Views, 11 Votes ,2.23 Score
docklove1970 50 M
3  Articles
BULLSHIT people are phoney and have NO backbone   1/14/2018

Let me tell you all something, we all find out the hard way sometimes. It comes down to ppl are not raised right. They don't have a backbone and common courtesy. What is right? Just say NO thank you, and move on. BUT, people play you a long, play fucking ring a round the posey, beat around the bush. Ultimately you have pissed off people.


5 Comments, 41 Views, 11 Votes ,3.92 Score
rm_hoganslogan 36 M
4  Articles
Why dont people have basic coutesy to reply a IM   12/30/2017

If you are not keen to talk to someone. Why not have basic coutesy to atleast reply them.. <br><br> You read the message n ignore.. thats so bad


5 Comments, 60 Views, 11 Votes ,2.42 Score
zekkstrom 38 M
6  Articles
Quick and easy   12/27/2017

One of the best ways is to simply say "Thank you, but I'm not interested. I wish you luck." This works great, as long as it is sincere. If people get upset at it, that isn't your fault, and you've done your part.


1 Comments, 18 Views, 11 Votes ,3.73 Score
fun4all195756 54 M
5  Articles
NOT JUST NO, BUT HELL NO   10/17/2017

I find it very funny how many people on here pose as couple, when it is just a bi guy. I also get a kick out of the number of women on here that are gun hoe till they find out you are not a young hunk. I myself don't see the need for a young hunk or a young woman to be here? I know they can find all the sex they want on their own. I was wondering how many people here find this site to be a ...


5 Comments, 44 Views, 11 Votes ,3.17 Score
Whats your percentage of useless messages?   7/31/2017

I'd say 95% of the messages I get are either bots or people that havent even looked at my profile.

Everyone else in the same boat? Anyone out there getting good messages all the time?


3 Comments, 39 Views, 11 Votes ,4.66 Score
kcock192 42 M
3  Articles
Proper way to say thanks but no thanks   6/15/2017

Not sure what is the proper way when someone approaches you on the site to say thanks but no thanks. I think everyone can agree that there is a certain physical chemistry involved in wanting to pursue a sexual encounter. I am not a picky person nor do I think that I am shallow or wanting a certain type. I am attracted to all women of all color and size and shape. That being said I find it ...


3 Comments, 65 Views, 11 Votes ,3.54 Score
Traveled the Road Less Traveled   10/4/2015

Well Ladies and Gentlemen, I tried to travel down the road less traveled and let me tell you... I learned some major lessons.

As Oprah would say, what I know for sure is... what I like and do not like and what I will and will not tolerate.

Let me explain I traveled down the road of younger guys and what my experience was... the sex was great, but... and we all know that the but ...


3 Comments, 74 Views, 11 Votes ,4.48 Score
TwoPlusOne4Funnn 35 C
1  Article
whoa can we meet you before your genitals   9/6/2015

Why ...just why lol do people think it is attractive to send genital pics in their 1st ever message to you like hi this is my stuff do you like....um I don't even know anything about you yet...immediate turn off


5 Comments, 45 Views, 11 Votes ,6.35 Score
1HORNYOLDBUGGER2 54 M
3  Articles
How to let down some unwanted suitor.   3/4/2015

Ever have this happen to you.. You check out your e-mail and find someone from the same sex hitting on you, or a sexually unattractive member wanting you to have an encounter with them. Face it the world is a crap-shoot. That's the adventure called: romance. How to not to seem rude and decline the offer. Just say in a polite manner, " I'm flattered that you have found me attractive, but I'm not ...


10 Comments, 86 Views, 11 Votes ,3.17 Score
superhead1973 51 C
10  Articles
No way   11/9/2014

We love the feature that lets us add a message on the IM before we block them.


5 Comments, 58 Views, 11 Votes ,5.22 Score
rm_3xthefun99 53 C
4  Articles
Blocked!!!   10/21/2014

There's no need to feel like you have to answer all these guys, just block them period.


3 Comments, 44 Views, 11 Votes ,4.29 Score
he69hertwo2 59 C
1  Article
When to Say No   1/12/2020

How many of you couples out there keep getting messages from the same lonely guy, day in and day out? You have told this person that you are not interested in them and they just insisting to message you. So how do you get them to stop?


9 Comments, 67 Views, 10 Votes ,3.39 Score
Timepiece201i 55 M
5  Articles
Why   1/8/2020

Why is it so hard for people say NO THANK OR NOT interested. Why can't they just respond back with that simple reply.


6 Comments, 43 Views, 10 Votes ,3.19 Score
bad blow jobs   11/25/2019

Back when we were all young there were always a couple girls who gave terrible blow jobs. You had just let them give you a hand job and move straight sex. Might even have so no the blow job if she was offering.


4 Comments, 27 Views, 10 Votes ,3.78 Score
Here2l00kcouple 33 C
1  Article
Why?   11/14/2019

Why is so hard for single men on here to not read what people post or say


2 Comments, 39 Views, 10 Votes ,2.79 Score
swman2 53 M
1  Article
Why   11/11/2019

Why when you get flirt and viewed do they then not respond on massaging


4 Comments, 25 Views, 10 Votes ,1.99 Score
No means no   10/23/2019

come on men, is it really that hard? <br><br> I still have women almost shocked that I can take rejection in stride. <br><br> Women, what do you do with men who are too persistent?


1 Comments, 21 Views, 10 Votes ,1.39 Score
Jformeets 23 M
5  Articles
Common manners from some on here   10/23/2019

Am I the only one or are others experiencing similar problems? <br><br> I'll come on, have loads of views, flirts, etc from a single profile. I'll hotlist them back and begin conversaion. They respond and we talk, suddenly they go quiet. One asked for me to top fan them and then didn't respond to my private messages. <br><br> Then when I contact others on IM I ...


1 Comments, 16 Views, 10 Votes ,1.00 Score
barracuda05 54 M
5  Articles
It is time to bring back proper manners even to a sex siite.   10/13/2019

I have been surfing all levels of this site for 20 years now and it has become clear over the years that manners have declined and in some instances disappeared completely. Gone are the days where people would in the rooms and not have fight and bicker. Gone are the days where people could an IM or message and people would politely respond "No thanks" if they weren't ...


3 Comments, 23 Views, 10 Votes ,2.79 Score
Britishlone 52 M
2  Articles
How do you say no nicely   10/11/2019

So you meet somebody in the bar and they arent how they looked in their photos or there just isnt a connection. How do you say no thanks without offending


1 Comments, 21 Views, 10 Votes ,1.59 Score
Pullmytrigger55 49 M
12  Articles
Screwed   9/18/2019

That's what AdultFriendFinder does to u


2 Comments, 18 Views, 10 Votes ,1.99 Score
Side Piece’s Side Action on the Side   9/2/2019

So a few years ago I met a girl from this site. We hit it off, and decided to meet. She wanted me to meet her at her apartment that she was renting to be closer to her work. I agreed. <br><br> When I got there, I was immediately creeped out. There was no furniture, and the kitchen was empty. There were a few boxes around and a bed. We talked a little bit, and then she started smoking ...


4 Comments, 26 Views, 10 Votes ,2.79 Score
gigelo2007 35 M
7  Articles
saying no   9/1/2019

Besides compliments, another thing the person you’re saying no to might appreciate is knowing why. Sometimes it’s best to be candid about your constraints. <br><br> Example: I can’t handle the meeting for you this afternoon—I’m busy onboarding a new hire and have a deadline I need to hit. <br><br> Example: This is a sweet pitch, but our doesn’t have a budget ...


2 Comments, 19 Views, 10 Votes ,1.79 Score
ttazz316 58 M
8  Articles
please be polite   3/9/2019

what is it girls can;t reply and just say not interested thanks


6 Comments, 30 Views, 10 Votes ,2.19 Score
Fogger312 51 M
5  Articles
Be polite?   1/10/2019

Why is it so difficult to say "no thanks" if the person is not interested? It's frustrating enough being rejected, but there's no to completely ignore a request (unless they are harassing you). <br><br> Thoughts?


3 Comments, 22 Views, 10 Votes ,2.79 Score
Now I know what the ladies feel like around here;)   12/31/2018

a straight guy just as my profile says. I respect all people's orientation mine is just mine. Notwithstanding my likes, I have repeatedly received requests from some local guy to suck my cock on . I've ignored them all. Now the guy sent me a message to complain about my failure to respond. I mean read the profile, not your match. I like my cock too but this is a little over the ...


1 Comments, 19 Views, 10 Votes ,2.39 Score
Cumnmymouth24 43 M
1  Article
Money   1/30/2018

Are there more women on here looking for money rather than just general fun?


5 Comments, 32 Views, 10 Votes ,4.18 Score
Horny62305 55 M
1  Article
Why can't people say not interested   1/13/2018

Is it just me why can't people just say not interested when u message them instead of just not responding


6 Comments, 35 Views, 10 Votes ,1.79 Score
tght14u03 50 M
5  Articles
Meeting up   12/21/2016

I'm beginning to think everyone is pic collectors. No one wants to meet without pictures. Remember when we didn't have the internet and we met for drinks. I have never had a problem meeting in person and either you are into them and great or one of you is not into the other and gi your separate ways. We're all adults. Once someone has had their identity stolen, fake profiles made and see how hard ...


3 Comments, 53 Views, 10 Votes ,4.78 Score
Inheatat46 57 F
4  Articles
This Member "djhits20072 " Male 55yr Old Harassing Me   10/30/2016

This guy seemed nice in beginning conversation. We only conversated on the phone. After awhile, he began having notions that I would video us and put it on this site. If you go to his profile you will see that he is definitely not the type of male you guys would want to see in a video with me. Anyway, he kept talking about us being videoed. He began going over and over again about being videoed ...


0 Comments, 58 Views, 10 Votes ,4.38 Score
charlesmorgan101 53 M
2  Articles
You have to say what you mean....   2/1/2016

There are some people who think that "no" is the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them. Some people believe if you say "no" you will lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put you in a poor position.

So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...


3 Comments, 27 Views, 10 Votes ,5.38 Score
KIngofAces5 21 M
1  Article
Sent mixed signal and chasing a lost of interest   11/11/2015

This is usually the reason why people pursue after someone. Because they thought they may be interested in them or may possibly give them a chance however when the individual decides to say no then the aggressor typically a man ( Man dominated cultures and in this chase America) thinks the chase (woman/man) is just playing hard to get. It is the flirts, misinterpreted body language that has ...


0 Comments, 30 Views, 10 Votes ,4.38 Score
No Thanks   2/17/2020

Telling someone no thanks is being nice. If said people don't get the point, then it's on them what comes next.


3 Comments, 46 Views, 9 Votes ,4.92 Score
to points   10/21/2019

points points points points points points points points.


1 Comments, 10 Views, 9 Votes ,2.78 Score
Justguy101 45 M
14  Articles
Not looking for sausage fest   10/3/2019

There must be 3to1 guys to girls on here guys posing as couple that’s gay. Hoping to pose as couple really be looking for guy on guy hook up..why don’t you change your profile to layer looking for m4m hook up stop wasting peoples time


3 Comments, 15 Views, 9 Votes ,3.43 Score
emotional rollercoaster   6/21/2019

always feel bad when i have to turn someone down, less a guy thats pretty fucking easy , God! Any advise how to let someone down without hurting their feelings! It sucks to do it, I hate it.


2 Comments, 17 Views, 9 Votes ,1.50 Score
Saying no thanks, because , as imagined , couples are scarce.. Hurry up and get a gold account   4/7/2019

Nothing ever changes. Are there no real couples , anywhere?


1 Comments, 19 Views, 9 Votes ,1.07 Score
Love2Pleazer 47 M
5  Articles
Scammer, fakes and frauds   3/8/2019

What is going here shaking my head? So many boys, scammer profiles and they're so aggressive like wtf!


3 Comments, 24 Views, 9 Votes ,1.93 Score
ttazz316 58 M
8  Articles
are the girls really just looking for sex   12/26/2018

are the girls on this site really just looking for sex and why are their guys on here pretending to be girls


2 Comments, 23 Views, 9 Votes ,2.36 Score
How to say 'no' after you meet up   10/18/2018

Hi, Sometimes you chat with someone and really hit it off. Unfortunately, when you meet up you just dont click. What is the nicest way to say no thank you without hurting anyone? thank you.


2 Comments, 44 Views, 9 Votes ,2.36 Score
Be polite   6/17/2018

When somebody sends you a message about being interested in you, the least you can do if your not interested is just be polite and say “ no thank you “.


3 Comments, 25 Views, 9 Votes ,2.78 Score
Rogueadventure2 52 C
1  Article
ouch   6/9/2018

I love all the people on here that take these amazing pictures that fool you into thinking they look amazing. Then they send you a more real picture, this is when I feel lied to! LOL I know that makes me sound shallow but I have a wide sweep in taste and some of these pictures are scary. I always get these after chatting for a while and then I never know what to say. I don't want to be rude ...


1 Comments, 35 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
up4goodtimennm 49 M
4  Articles
AdultFriendFinder IM   5/30/2018

Wondering what every ones thought are on the IM here. Is it just me or does it seem extremely rude to not at least say no thanks to a chat request. I understand some people get bombarded with requests but when I can see that it has been read at least say no thank you and move on.


2 Comments, 34 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
Courtesy   4/22/2018

Seems that when people aren't interested on here, that they don't even say no thanks. That would reduce harassing texts. You only have to tell me once.


5 Comments, 34 Views, 9 Votes ,2.14 Score
520bigdickrick69 41 M
5  Articles
Just say not interested.   1/23/2018

Sometimes I wish they would just say not interested as opposed just ignoring my message. That way I could just move on and not try to message them again. I don't mean to be pushy, just want to know if you would like to chat or not.


4 Comments, 39 Views, 9 Votes ,3.43 Score
Just decent   8/16/2017

How many times have you messaged someone and gotten no reply? I always answer my messages even if it is to say "No Thanks" at least then the other person has an answer. It is just common decency.


2 Comments, 25 Views, 9 Votes ,3.21 Score
ebonylover2019 51 M
6  Articles
funny i would love how to learn to say no thanks!!   7/17/2017

saying no thanks must be a woman thing, cause as a guy, not sure I would turn down any woman who wanted to meet.

most women on AdultFriendFinder are very sexy, they may not have sexy hot bodies, but they do have sexy hot minds. If they don't I am not getting to the meeting part of chat!!

as long as women are hot any horny, and seem like they enjoy pleasing people sexually, I am all in!


0 Comments, 13 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
Averageguy4154 29 M
2  Articles
What a great idea   7/27/2016

It would be amazing if people could just say no thanks. Makes denial easier, and less wondering on both sides.


3 Comments, 29 Views, 9 Votes ,4.92 Score
SoCarolinaMan 62 M
2  Articles
How do you feel when you make a "date" for swinging and the other party does not show up?   9/12/2015

Whenever a party says they will meet for a sexual encounter and they do not show up, what do you do?


6 Comments, 39 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
Women don't have a patent on preference   6/1/2015

There's no doubt that the man to woman ratio on this site is 500/20. That means a man has a 4% chance of actually getting as much attention as a woman on here. This doesn't include couple status. The women seem to be the smart ones on here. The ones worth talking to are selective, as a man should be. Some people just don't get it though. All I can do is shake my head when I hear a woman talk ...


7 Comments, 70 Views, 9 Votes ,5.14 Score
Harder for men or women?   1/29/2015

Who has the harder time saying no, men or women?


5 Comments, 46 Views, 9 Votes ,3.43 Score
Using IM   11/8/2014

I find that many simply never respond to an IM request for chat. Is there any etiquette on this matter?


5 Comments, 108 Views, 9 Votes ,4.49 Score
Tiptoingtony 44 M
2  Articles
Honestly   1/13/2020

Just be honest and truthful about everything and it will go alot easier


1 Comments, 18 Views, 8 Votes ,3.71 Score
samiam473 43 M
2  Articles
just say it   11/11/2019

Its ok to say no thanks when you are approached by members, it will not only let them move on but it keeps you from getting constant messages from a member you are not interested in


1 Comments, 19 Views, 8 Votes ,3.48 Score
Jayrsfsd 58 M
5  Articles
Ghosting and liars   10/31/2019

It seems pretty weird to me that people just can’t be most honest. The thing I hate the most it getting together or getting to know each other is liars. The minute I catch someone in a lie, I’m done, because they can’t be trusted. Just say no if you are not interested, don’t string someone along with lies and then ghost on them. I am busy with my career, I don’t have time to waste with ...


1 Comments, 19 Views, 8 Votes ,2.32 Score
alwayslookin8454 50 M
6  Articles
No Thanks   9/9/2019

Why is it so hard for some people to just say no thanks? It would make things so much easier.


1 Comments, 13 Views, 8 Votes ,0.93 Score
xxxmedicxxx 50 M
1  Article
Why is it so hard?   1/12/2019

Why is it so hard for people to just say it?


3 Comments, 23 Views, 8 Votes ,3.48 Score
Shinso13 37 M
1  Article
Honesty before things get weird.   10/16/2017

Sometimes you will find couples that want to do things together, whether you are into that or not is not the point of this, it is more to say that if you are up front with your limits or what you want out of something instead of hoping you can sneak it in you will get a lot farther in life and relationships.


2 Comments, 18 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
Politeness   9/20/2017

I always appreciate when someone says no thanks if I page them on IM. If someone pages me and I dont want to chat I always let them know instead of ignoring them.


0 Comments, 21 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
Alovertolove8888 36 M
2  Articles
Have you?   3/1/2017

Have you ever showed up for a "meet and greet" that was suppose to lead to sex, but the person on the other end was not who/what they appeared to be online?

This happened to me and I could not figure out a way to say "no thanks, this isn't going any further than coffee" without making it very awkward....

Any advice?


3 Comments, 57 Views, 8 Votes ,5.10 Score
Secretsforus2015 42 M
5  Articles
The Best Ways to Say No!   8/30/2016

So I am always curious what a woman on here believes is the "best way" to say no to someone she is not interested in.

I know a fair number have decided not responding is a solid route to get men to stop messaging them. At least eventually.

Women, what have you found is the best way to let a man know "I am not interested' but at the same time get a man to stop messaging you over ...


5 Comments, 29 Views, 8 Votes ,2.78 Score
rm_DeAnnaGray22 37 T
1  Article
Harsh Articulation   8/15/2015

In response to the email I received asking if I am interested in you I will begin by stating that I read your profile thoroughly in an effort to offer a no ‘bs’ and sincere answer. Typically I would simply not take the time to read through a profile without a profile picture attached. It shows a lack of confidence and conviction. That, in and of itself, is less attractive than the homeliest ...


5 Comments, 48 Views, 8 Votes ,4.87 Score
It's funny.   3/2/2015

I always appreciate it when someone says no thank you politely. I don't mind if they say "no interest". At least you know, there is nothing there. I do find it interesting that some people, just stop talking with you. You never know if they got cut off, or are not interested. So please, be blunt and say one thing or another, don't just go silent.


5 Comments, 30 Views, 8 Votes ,4.41 Score
Hiddenwifesub 32 F
0  Articles
"No thanks" from a sub.   7/15/2021

Being a sub there are people that think that means they can just start messaging with demands like " fuck your ass with a wine bottle now show me pics now!!" and then when I respectfully say no thanks, they try to back track or worse double down the demands. Problem with back tracking is that they've already shown that they don't respect the relationship and will abuse it. ...


5 Comments, 40 Views, 7 Votes ,5.08 Score
Wayneb51841 42 M
5  Articles
Nope   1/23/2020

No points ha


4 Comments, 22 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
onebigpickle 40 M
5  Articles
Gay guys flirting with Straights   11/25/2019

What is your go to response for letting a gay guy down?


4 Comments, 24 Views, 7 Votes ,2.53 Score
parmakr62 47 M
4  Articles
Vegan Santa   8/29/2019

There is a guy on here that keeps creeping on me. He looks like Vegan Santa Claus. He can't take a hint. I don't want to message him because he is not worth the points.


1 Comments, 13 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
shootitome2 73 M
20  Articles
some folk   7/31/2019

got it down pat.


1 Comments, 13 Views, 7 Votes ,0.75 Score
TwanTseX27 33 M
4  Articles
2019 Greetings   4/2/2019

ARE YOU RUDE NICE OR JUST GHOST A PERSON WHEN YOU TELL THEM NO THANKS?


1 Comments, 15 Views, 7 Votes ,1.26 Score
Oscarmike12 30 M
6  Articles
Why   3/29/2019

Why don't more women just say "no thanks"? It can be frustrating to figure if a woman wants to meetup or not. Not replying in I get for standard users, but gold members don't bother. Makes me want to delete this


3 Comments, 28 Views, 7 Votes ,2.79 Score
stevetripod 29 M
8  Articles
saying not interested   1/20/2019

Why do people give asshole responses when you say hi?


2 Comments, 26 Views, 7 Votes ,2.28 Score
DirtyBoi1423 27 M
2  Articles
yes or f off?   9/24/2018

cant you just say no thank you? instead of telling someone to piss the fuck off and being a rude person. up your game and be respectfull


3 Comments, 22 Views, 7 Votes ,2.79 Score
mattjoe22 44 M
21  Articles
Was punished for saying "No Thanks"   7/17/2018

I live in gated secured condo complex and I love using the workout room and hitting the pool but there is a woman who always appears and tries to engage in conversation. I have told her she is not my type, that I wasnt looking for a liaison and just wanted my peace. <br><br> An hour later, po-po show up and ask all kinds of questions about the lady. I didnt even know her name!! ...


3 Comments, 35 Views, 7 Votes ,1.26 Score
Chemistry   6/29/2018

So if you meet someone from here and find out the chemistry is just not there, how do you handle it? Do you treat it like any regular date, or because it started with an emphasis on meeting for adult fun, end the encounter quickly. Either way, i think its best to be thoughtful of the impact on others feelings.


3 Comments, 14 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
arealbadboy333 55 M
5  Articles
People that don't respond   5/9/2018

How hard is it to say "No thanks." or "I'll pass". With the sketchy performance of AdultFriendFinder's Messenger, how is any to know if an actual message is getting through? I don't mind saying, "Sorry, not what I'm looking for at this time." but...nothing??? That's just rude anytime and anywhere. Your thoughts?


1 Comments, 21 Views, 7 Votes ,4.06 Score
i wish   5/5/2018

i wish people has the respect to say no thank-you thank-you


2 Comments, 12 Views, 7 Votes ,2.02 Score
wintercuddle 46 M
1  Article
Saying No Thank You after steamy chat   12/30/2017

What is the best way to say "no thanks" after a long time chatting, getting all steamy, and realizing when you meet that something is missing? How not to hurt the other person?


2 Comments, 19 Views, 7 Votes ,2.53 Score
alone on the holidays sucks   12/22/2017

its hard when you meet someone and they are just not attracted or into you. I always just try be happy and move on but I always wonder why they don't like me. I wonder if it was just the way I look or if it is something I said I didn't say. I wonder if I could have said something different or if they just were not attracted to me or maybe its just the sound of my voice or the way I talk.


0 Comments, 13 Views, 7 Votes ,2.28 Score
tallman60314 41 M
16  Articles
Saying NO on a date   12/7/2017

I have made the experience that some people on here use old or fake photos to get dates. But i am also telling them when I meet them in real life that this is a no go and I stop the date right away. <br><br> Who also does this?


1 Comments, 13 Views, 7 Votes ,2.79 Score
bigboystwo2 53 M
11  Articles
gotta be gentle   7/24/2017

some come ready to play.. so if you don't want to, ,, ,, be nice.


1 Comments, 11 Views, 7 Votes ,1.00 Score
notbender2 52 M
4  Articles
Is it rude to say "No Thanks"?   9/16/2016

I think we all need to learn when to say it and when to hear it without comment. Let's bring back "no, thank you" and follow it with a full stop.

In this world of over-sharing, it can be tough to stop at "no, thank you." It feels awkward, but you will get used to it.

You are not being rude by saying "no, thank you." Anyone who refuses to accept it is being rude by questioning ...


0 Comments, 37 Views, 7 Votes ,3.80 Score
How many times to say no?   9/25/2015

We have several members who continuously message their interest in us. We do try to answer when someone takes the time of message us but just how many times must one do that? Is there a way to block a member when they become a nuisance?


4 Comments, 32 Views, 7 Votes ,5.59 Score
kimdan4fun 40 C
10  Articles
Testimonials   11/7/2014

Do you sometimes say no thanks to someone that has given you a testimonial?


6 Comments, 49 Views, 7 Votes ,5.08 Score
thorped11 41 M
1  Article
Ignoring people if not interested or politely declining   10/11/2014

What is the outlook on this? Do people prefer to hear back even if it is not the response they would like to hear or will being ignored also do the job. Also if you have to deal with unwanted attention do you prefer to let them know or simply ignore it and the potential backlash of a "sore loser" along with it?


5 Comments, 43 Views, 7 Votes ,2.53 Score
Sweetscpurple 50 F
1  Article
Just be honest   4/14/2020

I am not sure why it is so hard for people to just be honest and say NO THANKS if they are not interested.


3 Comments, 45 Views, 6 Votes ,4.50 Score
AravGupt007 29 M
4  Articles
21 Ways to “Give Good No"   1/27/2020

We are coming to that time of the year that is both blessed and cursed with zillions of invitations. Here are some that are in my email right now: Can you meet me for coffee to help me with my book proposal? Will you bring a snack to the 8th grade party on December 19th? Are you coming to our housewarming party? Can you help with my ’s college applications? Do you want to take the to see ...


1 Comments, 20 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
Ellsfun4311 38 M
7  Articles
Points   1/16/2020

Yup, just one of those I need points posts


3 Comments, 14 Views, 6 Votes ,3.65 Score
enzorn 39 M
1  Article
No thanks   1/6/2020

Another No Thanks for just getting some points.


2 Comments, 14 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
Co worker   11/29/2019

How do you turn down a co worker and not make things awkward atvwork.


4 Comments, 15 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
POINTS POINTS POINTS POINTS.   11/27/2019

POINTS POINTS POINTS POINTS.


1 Comments, 7 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
I never say No Thanks   10/16/2019

to points.. They are too valuable


1 Comments, 9 Views, 6 Votes ,1.66 Score
lovethsebigtits9 45 M
3  Articles
when enough is enough   6/14/2018

when some becomes too pushy and you have to say no thanks, should be enough for any man or woman. letsd have some respect in this world.


2 Comments, 12 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
thicknrealfun1 41 M
2  Articles
Persistence even after you say no thanks   4/3/2018

I get it quite a bit from couples... but the persistence these days when you say no thank you is crazy. I don't like reporting or ignoring people, but they continually think they are going to change you mind. This is especially the case with couples and gay men on here. <br><br> Anyone else running into this?


0 Comments, 25 Views, 6 Votes ,3.93 Score
msusoccer 43 M
1  Article
emailing   1/15/2017

Why does it seem like on this site women are significantly more interested in just ignoring emails rather than saying no thanks. I get the emails that are short, 3 or 4 words, but when a guy takes the time to compose a thoughtful email, shouldn't that at least deserve some kind of response? What happened to common decency?


10 Comments, 77 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
sexaddictdon 66 M
31  Articles
SexCapades ..Sex Tourism .... Sex vacations..are they worth it?   11/1/2016

SexCapades ..Sex Tourism .... Sex vacations..are they worth it? A few days ago, at the Lakers home game / season opener, I ran in to a good friend and an acquaintance I've know since high school. It was nice to see them and talk to them at the game and catch up since we don't talk on a regular basis, except at a gathering, social event or party once or twice every year. They were both in ...


3 Comments, 92 Views, 6 Votes ,5.07 Score
morningstretcher 48 M
1  Article
Fake Profile Pics   8/15/2016

Don't you dislike it when the person you're chatting or planning on seeing is really lying about themselves. Why? Just be real.


2 Comments, 22 Views, 6 Votes ,3.37 Score
Neil1980s 32 M
1  Article
Why is it diificult for some to at least say "No Thanks"?   4/7/2016

With so many people from all over the world on this site, it's fair to say you'll find someone you're interested in meeting with pretty quickly, though it's also fairly likely that that person may not be interested in meeting you, for whatever reason.

That's fine, but as far as I'm concerned, basic courtesy dictates that if you receive a message, then you at last reply to it, if only to ...


5 Comments, 63 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
sumith00007 33 M
1  Article
Ass lick   11/22/2015

Why girl ass makes man horny..


3 Comments, 29 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
Bbcnmad 40 M
2  Articles
I think this might mess our friendship up   11/18/2014

Tell them that there a really great person but our friendship means more to me then just a hook up


1 Comments, 61 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
Patoff6969 43 M
5  Articles
Good luck loll   9/3/2019

At all the men want do something on me


1 Comments, 13 Views, 5 Votes ,1.19 Score
Zcemer 49 M
2  Articles
No response   5/23/2019

I have recieved numerous messages and IMs and have gotten no replies back. What is the purpose of reaching out and not saying a thing. Makes you wonder why. Post a response and share your thoughts on one. I'm sure there's plenty of people on here would like to know how you feel.


1 Comments, 15 Views, 5 Votes ,0.86 Score
Lovemizer70 53 M
7  Articles
prositioned   9/1/2018

say no somebody might be in a sting


1 Comments, 12 Views, 5 Votes ,1.19 Score
Thehorneydevel21 21 M
1  Article
Life is how you make it   8/16/2018

Life is how you make it if you want something to happen make it happen only you can do it no one else


1 Comments, 7 Views, 5 Votes ,1.84 Score
Hi   5/8/2018

How do you as a guy say no thank you to a woman who comes across as self centred and full of there own importance? Even though she is like this I have morals I stick by ...


4 Comments, 21 Views, 5 Votes ,1.84 Score
IDang4321 35 M
12  Articles
saying no   4/26/2018

just say no like the say in school


1 Comments, 11 Views, 5 Votes ,1.51 Score
Respeitar o não!   6/24/2017

A mulher como todo homem sabe, é de fases uma hora está com o humor dos melhores outra hora está com o pior possível, ela pode dizer que está afim de transar e no mesmo instante dizer que perdeu a vontade. Muitas vezes isso é de deixar o cara puto, porém o que sempre prevalece é a vontade de ambas as partes no que em minha opinião é requisito fundamental para a relação ser prazerosa, ...


1 Comments, 9 Views, 5 Votes ,3.47 Score
Is blocking okay?   6/4/2017

I've been interested in some members, then they constantly message and such to the point where I will block them to get some peace. If I decide to unblock them do you think it would lead to something or would they hold a grudge?


4 Comments, 31 Views, 5 Votes ,2.82 Score
lickforher69 20 M
1  Article
no to a bad night   4/17/2017

when you are out partying trying to enjoy your night when all of a sudden you get a gut feeling knowing something isnt right with the girl thats trying to get with you fallow the gut on feelings that night i had that feeling then found out that girl that was trying to get with me got locked up for having a shit ton of drugs in her car


0 Comments, 21 Views, 5 Votes ,2.16 Score
Rejection nicely   3/11/2017

Have never suffered with too much ill feeling over being rejected, although do how the arrogance of how some deliver it. Currently if I want to tell someone they are not my type, I have found that it softens it or puts it into perspective to say that they are simply not my 'flavour'. Wondering if that sounds crass? but it seems to make sense to me. Sound like Volvo's some like Porches, some like ...


4 Comments, 40 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
Lostinhorn 33 M
2  Articles
How to say no thanks   7/13/2016

Just say no thanks, don't be rude and not answer. Simply say I'm not interested but thanks for the offer, or something like that. Remember they are people too.


4 Comments, 23 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
TheOnlyHotspot 42 C
5  Articles
I might be too blunt   1/13/2016

If I'm not interested it's going to be a straight up answer. I am nice but blunt is anyone else like that or am I the only bitch. If you n I have nothing in common I'm sorry but it's not happening

NO THANKS


2 Comments, 33 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
Mean People Suck   3/1/2015

I've been here for while. I've been successful. I had a lot of fun, and I've met some very special ladies. I think about each one as a bottle of wine, the bottle that I shared with them: Chardonnay, Riesling, a particularly good vintage of South African Wine, and yes even a Merlot. I've also met some real jerks, at least on line.

I have sent at least 200 emails to which I received no ...


2 Comments, 59 Views, 5 Votes ,5.10 Score
fredericton_4fun 34 M
10  Articles
This has probably has been discussed alot but.   12/17/2014

How do you best say your not interested in another couple in a face to face meet n greet? I have always respected being honest with people but sometimes a white lie in these cases are too bad. Tell me your thoughts ....


1 Comments, 47 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
prettyinpink838 40 C
6  Articles
No   10/31/2014

Saying no has become very easy to say on this site especially with single guys.


3 Comments, 41 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
pluralnhshaft 62 M
1  Article
Just say no   7/6/2020

I think its really easy. I guess some people think its not polite or its an acceptable thing to leave others hanging. I figure out of 100 interactions on line one meeting would be good. The thing that is strange to me though is, why does someone initiate a conversation, you have a good conversation and then nothing. If you're not interested say so. I will check in with people with a short ...


8 Comments, 63 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
Sometimes its hard   1/17/2020

No its not, just say im not into it


1 Comments, 15 Views, 4 Votes ,5.19 Score
Reply’s   8/16/2019

It really is not that hard to say no thanks to a reply I mean as least it’s a response


5 Comments, 26 Views, 4 Votes ,4.80 Score
Cjay9205 31 M
5  Articles
Fake pictures   7/23/2019

Why are there sooooo many fake pictures on here? some even use the photo for multiple accounts cant stand it! less faking more fucking am i right


1 Comments, 7 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
Messaging   4/15/2019

Someone tell me what doing wrong. I message people politely and introduce myself. I ask how they are doing day and offer to send a pic so they can see what i look like or most times just send a face pic. Still only 1 out of maybe 15 reply or even read my message. Any suggestions


6 Comments, 26 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
How to say No Thanks, when meeting in person first time   6/15/2018

How do you politely say no thanks, once you've finally met in person, without coming off rude?


3 Comments, 27 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
KYrod1991 32 M
2  Articles
No means no   12/1/2016

No means no damnit 😉


9 Comments, 45 Views, 4 Votes ,4.41 Score
Saying No   10/3/2016

It seems allot of people like to say no and sometimes they shouldn.ty


1 Comments, 17 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
Sffungentleman 53 M
1  Article
What is the code phrase for saying no?   9/19/2016

I have met two different couples in the recent past and during our initial meet they were both very excited and said they wanted to hook up and have fun. A few days later, they said "we are really busy right now". Now this isn't my first rodeo and it just seemed a bit odd that they were suddenly too busy to connect up. I presume this is swinger code for "no thanks". Can anyone verify this? I ...


1 Comments, 23 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
being polite   9/12/2016

we are all here pretty much here for the same reason...

this doesn't mean that one should insult or be impolite to each other... the way I see it - there is either attraction or not - if not - say no, no thanks or not my type...

I understand that this refers mainly to responses from women to men BUT some men also need to accept a NO and not further bother the ladies on this ...


1 Comments, 14 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
jrhammer44224 41 M
2  Articles
Personal Preference versus Racism   8/30/2016

I'm all about equality in life, every human being has a fundamental right to try to make a living and find happiness. I may not like some aspects of how a given group of people approach their ethical practices towards others, but it is behavior that transcends race and creed.

That being said, I was recently approached on another site by a woman. Nice, similar cultural interests, ...


3 Comments, 43 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
Tea compared to sex   8/26/2016

If somebody offers you tea or coffee- and you say yes- that does not necessarily mean that you Will have tea every time you are together with this person.

The same goes with sex.


1 Comments, 7 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
ohmamma1 31 M
2  Articles
what happened?   8/7/2016

you know it really bites when you're trying to just say hello on the IM and people don't respond. Id much rather hear not interested than wonder if my IM isn't working. then it's me sitting there wasting my time and points trying to get a message through to the person and not understanding why this isn't working?


1 Comments, 21 Views, 4 Votes ,4.41 Score
SeanTheDon3 27 M
10  Articles
Home   5/6/2016

I'm bored and want points


1 Comments, 11 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
"No Gracias"   1/4/2016

There was one time where the person said please do me so hard and I said no.


2 Comments, 26 Views, 4 Votes ,1.69 Score
rm_WERYRYIO 42 M
1  Article
YES or NO   12/13/2015

we do say YES when its come about sex life and normally word NO in sex life was just a word thats mean nothing. As long we live and ability to want means YES to our sex life


2 Comments, 20 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
rejection on reason basis and strength of rejection   10/30/2015

some people just do not like to accept "i don't like you" as an answer. what could be done in this case? one of the good choices could be reasoning and explaining the reason unless he/she is some kind of psycho, in which case rejection should be strong and exempt from reasoning


2 Comments, 22 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
jacqndenita 42 C
1  Article
How to say "no"   9/3/2015

My wife and I have been in this situation a few times and it is always difficult. We were in a group situation, invited to a party where there were several couples we knew and there was one guy out of the bunch that my wife found very unattractive. Later on in the evening there was group play going on and we didn't end up playing at all because she was uncomfortable with having to say no to ...


2 Comments, 60 Views, 4 Votes ,5.19 Score
Worst_Behavior4 45 C
1  Article
Being polite doesn't always work   6/14/2020

We try to keep our "thanks but no thanks" message polite and straight forward. But there are some people who persist, thinking if they change the language or tone of an I.M or message from previously sent one's that will suddenly make us change our mind. It's annoying and irritating! We're not rude people in general and don't wanna be, but when pushed you get the ...


3 Comments, 29 Views, 3 Votes ,5.39 Score
xSimplesex 52 M
6  Articles
adding a new article ..   5/30/2020

here i am, adding a new article ... a sad day


3 Comments, 18 Views, 3 Votes ,0.49 Score
Lundsirftumhara 34 M
4  Articles
No thanks for sex   1/29/2020

There are many situation comes in which you can say no thanks for sex As depend what is happens with your partner or you would not like to meet with your partner or you had recently break up with you partner and don't want to do sex and any o e offer you for the saex but you refuse the same <br><br> The reason is for that they you most like the that person and that perosns real ...


1 Comments, 13 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
How to keep thing decent?   11/3/2019

Looking for some advice here. How do you say ‘no thanks’ after exploring a relationship and deciding you aren’t interested. I try be up front and honest but sometimes it leads hurt feelings.


1 Comments, 7 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
69fwbtg69 45 M
7  Articles
I'm looking   10/31/2019

What is so hard to say I'm not interested. People checking out people profile like they might b interested and yet when u im them they don't respond. I understand women get hammered on here but at least take the time to say not interested


1 Comments, 5 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
No Thanks   10/2/2019

So when you say no thanks in the most polite unrude way etc. 98% of the time they question it.. or they insist on how good it wiil be and how good they are. Everyone has preferences . If you're not what they want or prefer then let it be .


1 Comments, 7 Views, 3 Votes ,1.47 Score
luv2pleaseu2019 49 M
1  Article
Working Girls   12/30/2018

Is it just me or are there a lot of women on here lately trying to "sell their wares"? I'm assuming it has a lot to do with the Craigslist getting rid of their adult oriented classifieds section. I could be narrow minded but, I didn't join this site to find a . Hell, if I wanted to pay for sex I would of stayed married. Okay, that may have been a little low. Any way, am I alone ...


1 Comments, 10 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
points   12/1/2018

doing it for the points points points


1 Comments, 7 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
69clitL0ver 43 M
7  Articles
Does anyone say yes?   4/23/2018

Does anyone say yes?


3 Comments, 16 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
how do you say NO to your partner   11/17/2017

how do you say no to your partner when you don't want sexxx ?


0 Comments, 14 Views, 3 Votes ,1.47 Score
sexylund119 38 M
9  Articles
no thanks   4/1/2017

when u say o any one for some of work u r happy


0 Comments, 13 Views, 3 Votes
Photo/Icon (optional)   11/21/2016

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2 Comments, 8 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
ussion topics are for original mat   11/21/2016

ussion topics are for original material written by members. Any plagiarized material will be removed from the site. Also, please observe the HornyWife Terms of Use. If you see material that is inappropriate for HornyWife, or that may have been publish


1 Comments, 11 Views, 3 Votes ,0.49 Score
RhymesWithSassy 45 T
3  Articles
SENSITIVE EGOS   8/25/2016

Some people just don't take "no thanks" very well. If someone gets on your nerves...

My advice:

When it comes to blocking memebers, don't forget to be on the FULL site (go through My Account, Blocked Members) so that you can check ALL the boxes to block them from seeing your profile (which contains multiple vulnerabilities). Just blocking someone on the MOBILE site only ...


0 Comments, 14 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
Ok   7/20/2016

How come this concept is so hard for people to follow? I understand when you have to many messages to actually follow but I am sure not every woman is flooded with messages. How hard would it be to say no thanks?


2 Comments, 12 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
Lostinhorn 33 M
2  Articles
How to say no thanks   7/13/2016

Just say no thanks, don't be rude and not answer. Simply say I'm not interested but thanks for the offer, or something like that. Remember they are people too.


1 Comments, 10 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
varun_79595 44 M
2  Articles
How to eat PUSSY   6/22/2016

Hey, I have a lot of respect for all you guys who like to eat pussy because there are too few of you out there. Furthermore, some of you guys who are giving it the old college try are not doing too well, so maybe this little lesson will help you out. When a woman finds a man who gives good head, she's found a treasure she's not going to let go of too quickly. This is one rare customer and she ...


3 Comments, 39 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
Wantodouto123 58 M
1  Article
Do you have morals!   3/26/2016

OK so this actually happened to me in about 10 years ago. I was out partying with my best friend and his wife and we went to a local bar where we live just to have a good time and play pool..... As The night went on we all were getting pretty buzzed up....Now let me say Jennifer his wife is extremely gorgeous and I admit I've fanatized about her, anyway I made my way to the bathroom when ...


3 Comments, 44 Views, 3 Votes ,4.90 Score
TylerDurden5052 30 M
1  Article
30 pts post(ignore)   4/5/2015

How can mirrors be real if our eyes aren't real?


2 Comments, 11 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
luv2licurkitty 56 M
3  Articles
Does that   1/24/2020

score you ?


1 Comments, 6 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
should be enough   12/10/2019

i would hope a woman saying no is always honored


1 Comments, 7 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
I never say "No Thanks"   10/15/2019

To points.. They are hard to come by on here!


1 Comments, 4 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
points   3/25/2019

points points points points points


1 Comments, 3 Views, 2 Votes ,1.04 Score
fancysomefun65 55 M
1  Article
being polite when rejecting an advance   10/18/2018

i would like to think that i polite when taking to women on here about possible meets. so in return i would hope that a women can be polite if they want to decline your offer. i would also be polite and kind if i was to turn a women down. <br><br> what i don't like is people who are damn rude and even abusive in response. we could all be like that but its just not nice! ...


1 Comments, 6 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
totalreelielitt 40 M
4  Articles
Choices that have very fine sinus congestions in the end of the wrong turn I made...   8/13/2017

Is it so very negligent to leave your pets all about and without proper behavior? Really I'd rather swim in the ocean and find gold perhaps at the bottom of the abyss than date a bismol. That way the never ending battle I had with Achilles and guess what. I offer his soul back up to Zues himself. The little pixie liked to pick the wrong fights and found out that I'm superman compared to his ...


0 Comments, 11 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
Crying through the whole first date? No.   9/17/2016

Take it from me, if you are going to cry for the whole first date, you're not going to get a second one. It happened to me. I met a lady, and she balled for the whole hour long date. I'm a kind person, so i tried to reassure her and I didn't run away. But, needless to say, she was in no place to be dating. She really needed to work some things out. I get it, it can be really lonely when you ...


1 Comments, 16 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
toungeman4woman 67 M
7  Articles
AdultFriendFinder CHANGES TP STANDARD MEMBERS   6/13/2016

As modt Standard members now know AdultFriendFinder is charging point soe just about everthing. Im CHAT VIDEO VIEW ETC


4 Comments, 23 Views, 2 Votes ,4.50 Score
Pat1qaz 47 M
1  Article
Don't Ignore, just say what you think!   6/7/2016

Too many folks on here will not just say, "thanks, but not my type"....what ever happened to being honest instead of just all of a sudden ignoring some one...rude!


2 Comments, 25 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
psbiguy 64 M
3  Articles
Whats the best way to say not interested.   4/27/2016

I have gotten a lot of response to my profile that are younger then what I am looking for. My profile heading is even Coffee Buddy 60+ w/benefits". I don't want to be rude, just I am not looking for younger. A few times I had the same couples ask repeatedly and finally had to block them.


1 Comments, 23 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
rm_NOPoet30 67 M
47  Articles
NO!   10/29/2015

Hey Look Ppl - No is NO and they usually [90%] mean just that = NO. Once should be enough! To keep going is not only pointless, but it is also very annoying and can lead only to trouble. Listen and comply.


2 Comments, 19 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
no thanks   5/15/2015

no thanks


0 Comments, 9 Views, 2 Votes
Blocking a person   1/24/2020

I know when you block a person you don't get their messages and you don't see them online in chat/IMC but do they still see you as being online or is it as if your not there also?


1 Comments, 17 Views, 1 Votes ,3.70 Score
Say no   9/11/2019

Maybe hardest and loveliest part oh well or oh this is hell whatever it is it is something


0 Comments, 3 Views, 1 Votes
Monologue Responding to IM messages   5/17/2018

I'm sure you all experience monologuing when you chat and no one else answers. Such a waste of time. All it takes is for you to reply "no thanks" don't leave us hanging.


1 Comments, 7 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
when you hear no thanks?   4/4/2016

When you hear no thanks


4 Comments, 21 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
IM   1/28/2015

i am a charming guy trying to make conversation and too many times i get someone just suddenly end an IM conversation. isn't there a more polite way to say we should end this?


1 Comments, 18 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
points   10/13/2019

points points points points points points points points.


0 Comments, 3 Views, 0 Votes
MilfHunter78416 26 M
2  Articles
Being a young guy into older women   7/26/2019

Why is it so hard to find a good woman who loves men? Is it something people are ashamed of in 2019 of all years? Girls my age are not drawn to me the way older women are but still it seems none of them want to commit to their feelings and urges. I honestly dont see color or age or shape as long as we respect each other but I do wish I could find an older woman to treat the way she deserves. ...


1 Comments, 2 Views, 0 Votes
JR20163 40 M
5  Articles
Is it that hard to say no thanks?   7/10/2016

Is it that hard to say no thanks? simple polite response just saying your not interested?


3 Comments, 17 Views, 0 Votes
toungeman4woman 67 M
7  Articles
changes on AdultFriendFinder   6/19/2016

So about three days ago AdultFriendFinder was at it again change the cam vire you could not even see you owen cam WTH is going on here new management or what


1 Comments, 12 Views, 0 Votes