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Posted:Oct 12, 2017 6:33 pm
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2017 9:29 am

I won't pretend to know all the differences between democrats and republicans. I won't pretend to be a political know-it-all. But, I do know the difference between right and wrong. And so much of what I see happening is WRONG. I haven't said much, not because I choose to stay silent, but because my heart and head are so overwhelmed I don't even know where to start. But tonight my head landed in a good spot. Racism is real and still very prevalent, although I wish it wasn't. Especially not in 2017.

I remember when I was 17 or 18 being pulled over (for no legitimate reason) by a couple of white Acworth police officers with a few of my girlfriends and some of our guy friends, who yes... so happened to be black. I'll never forget one of the cops looking at me and saying "the only reason for a white girl to be in this area with black men is to sell sex for drugs." And then telling me that I wasn't allowed in that area again. I remember being pulled over (again, for no real reason) with my boyfriend at the time and having my car searched head to toe, made us get out of the car, etc.... I remember being in high-school and hearing some boys call me a n***** lover. Or the time I accidentally overheard some guys I went to school with talk negatively about my body and said it was because I f*** with n******).

I've heard men of color tell me that there is a part of them that is scared to be in a relationship with a white women, due to the "power" that white people seem to have... aka white privilege and that hurts my heart. I've been asked on multiple occasions "so what do your parents think about you dating a black man?"

Because here's the truth (ugly but true). I can get pulled over and not feel scared at all. But all of the men and women and of color that I know and love, will most likely feel fearful if they are pulled over. That's NOT how our country should be. I don't know exactly what to do to change it, but I do know that we CANNOT keep traveling the road that leads to our past.

Here's another truth. When I first heard "BLACK LIVES MATTER" ... I thought to myself well yes, they do, but don't all lives matter. Then I started really listening to what was behind that statement and the light bulb came on. So you know what... it's nothing for me to argue about, disagree with, etc etc... My part in all of this, in my opinion, is to 110% back African Americans. Because, yes... all lives matter, but right now #BLACKLIVESMATTER.

I wish I could stop all the hate and ignorance that is taking place. There is enough hate in the world, why do we need to hate based on someone's race?! Based on how they were BORN?! Based on how exactly the way God intended them to be. We all bleed red. We are all loved by God. And I don't know about y'all, but my God loves every single person on this earth.... white, black, purple, green, blue, christian, Jewish, gay, straight... Everyone. Period.

Lastly, I know I'm not a political genius, (to be honest I still don't know where I stand as far as democrat, republican, blah blah etc etc) but for the love of God - someone get this joke of a president out of office. Not because he's a republican. Because he is a sorry excuse for a man and an awful depiction of what a leader of a country should look like. And not to mention he is failing miserably at life. (Morally speaking)

Some of this might seem like TMI or too harsh or too brutal, but it’s just real. Love you all ✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿
Eye Contact???
Posted:Sep 15, 2016 4:48 pm
Last Updated:Mar 30, 2017 7:40 am

How many of you avoid eye contact during sex?

If you do, why do you?

Or do you like looking into the eyes of your partner?

If so, why do you like doing that?
How long is too long???
Posted:Sep 12, 2016 4:24 pm
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2017 9:30 am
A young girl that works for me, had this open discussion this weekend and I thought what a better place for this discussion ....... than AdultFriendFinder Land!!

She is in her late 20's and he is well into his 50's. They have been messing around for about 2 years. They are not in a relationship, just strictly a sex relationship. Sometimes she can feel that he wants a little more but she basically just pushes all efforts away.

Her question / point of heated discussion in the office: He has issues with ED.

She doesn't judge him to his face and tries to make the situation as comfortable as possible when he deflates, joking about him needing to eat healthier. He works out all the time, has the body of a God but that "pecker" just won't do. Oral is always their go to. So anyways these last couple of rounds of sex he gives her oral as always and she returns the favor.

HERE IS HER ISSUE....The length of time spent sucking is becoming the issue. The question is how long is too long to be sucking or how can you tell a man that it's getting redundant? He does not cum on the regular whether vaginal or oral so she feels like she is just down there wasting time!!!

How do you tell a man that if you "have" to stay down there for 20-30 plus minutes because that what it takes for you and sometime that you still do not get off.... that she is just done with it all.

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Size.....Does it Matter
Posted:Sep 9, 2016 3:43 pm
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2017 1:42 pm
Does size really matter when it comes to having more or less pleasure in bed?

Does it really matter?

Is the sex better if it is bigger?

Can the woman use different positions to make the most of what HE 's got??

Sex and Weight....does it matter?
Posted:Sep 5, 2016 2:35 pm
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2017 1:42 pm

Men often say that sex changes when a woman gains weight. We all know ...based on cheaters are us...that is when most men start to stray or cheat when their woman puts on excess weight or doesn't loose "baby weight".

On the flip side ... do you all think that a man's sex changes when he gains weight?

Does his penis shrink when he gains weight or does it grow larger when he is more lean?

Just asking because I can't go examine every single one out there and y'all know that I am not examining the white ones!!
I have been BAD.....
Posted:Sep 5, 2016 10:41 am
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2017 1:43 pm
You have me pressed up against the wall and I can feel your breath on the back of my neck. I can feel all of your hardness on the back of my thigh. The 1st cuff clicks on my right wrist as you spread my legs wider. You keep telling me that I have been bad and it would be a crime to let it go unpunished.

What's my punishment?

Who let the DAWGS out!!!!
Posted:Sep 1, 2016 5:47 am
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2024 9:48 am
It is the start of my FAVORITE time of the year....


So represent your favorite team below so we can all see who we need to kick in the knees!!

There is a meeting in the hotel room...
Posted:Aug 31, 2016 7:55 pm
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2024 9:48 am

Arriving at the hotel I wasted no time in getting to my room and making that call.


Me> Hi... what are you up to?

I’m at the office,

Me> How would you like to get out of there for a while?

Why where am I going?

Me> To see me... I'm here

Your here... your joking

Me> I guess you will find out when you get here it's the same hotel as before room 227

I'll be there in a half hour

Me> I'll be waiting

I went to the mirror and then paced the floor and even looked out the window a few times... thinking it was the longest half hour I had ever waited.

Finally a knock at the door... opening it and seeing you there... I didn't even think I could speak a word and when I did

Please don't ever make me wait that long to see you again spilled from my lips.

When you took me in your arms it felt as if we had never been apart... those long days and lonely nights just faded away... I felt the need in your kiss and the way you wanted me in the bite on my neck that sent shivers though my whole body. At that moment I would have given all I had to stop time to stay in that embrace for the rest of eternity... to stay in your arms. From that moment every thing was a blur of want and need hot kisses... passionate touches and hot skin against skin, your breath in my ear.

A hot passionate need... a long awaited dream... to be in your arms, to feel you again, it didn't even feel real... I wondered if I had fallen asleep and was dreaming again... your hands caressing my breasts and flicking the nipples had me crazy with need... your hardness rubbing my thigh had me hot and wanting... my body was on fire, I wanted you in me now.

Please fuck me make me yours... take me for your pleasure... I want you

No I need you... do it now slide into my depths. You pull me, I feel your hardness touch my wetness and I push closer... you tease me by rubbing the tip along my slit... kissing the corners of my mouth... your tongue slips in and meets mine... my hands slide from your shoulders down your back as my nails lightly scrape the skin... fondling your ass cheeks in my hands as I pull you in. Yes I need you there inside slipping deeper...each stroke taking me closer.

Yes fuck me... feel me wrapped around your dick

I want to please you to feel your warmth deep inside..... my body moves under you trying to take you in more to feel you in the deepest depths. I can't hold back

I know you need this... it's me you want ( ME ) the one you are fucking right now.

You feel me squeezing... little whimpers... long moans that make you push even deeper.

Yes it's me.

Feel your juices empty into me... you know it's what I want to have a part of you in me... after the passion we lay in each others arms wet with sweat the sweet juices from each others bodies mixed.

It's what makes us friends... lovers... and in some other time it makes us ( One ).

Wishing I was there.

You have to listen with a dirty mind....
Posted:Aug 31, 2016 7:37 pm
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2024 9:48 am
Y'all know me well enough to know that I am a a FREAK..........a football freak that is. And if you listen really, really close with your dirty...dirty will hear some things that sound oh so very naughty

20. The hole closed on him before he could penetrate it.
19. He came at his blind side and got him from behind.
18. He's off to the sidelines for a quick blow.
17. It's a game of inches.
16. That hole was so big, you could drive a truck through it.
15. When you get down in this area, you just gotta start pounding.
14. He's gonna feel that one tomorrow.
13. He found his tight end.
12. End around.
11. He had to stretch to get it in.
10. He gets penetration into the backfield.
9. He blows them off (at the line).
8. He bangs it in.
7. He could go all the way.
6. He gets it off just in time.
5. He goes deep.
4. He found a hole and slid through it.
3. He pounds it in.
2. He beats them off (the line)
1. He's got great hands.

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What you did to get my attention......
Posted:Aug 31, 2016 7:25 pm
Last Updated:Aug 31, 2016 7:39 pm
What you did to get my attention must also do to keep my attention. Do not get lax and comfortable ...cause that is when you will find yourself blocked and out in the cold!!

There are really just a few thing to keep a HAPPY woman...HAPPY!!!

There is more happiness in giving than in receiving:

**Phone Calls

It's the little things that mean the most:

**Phone Calls

Posted:Aug 24, 2016 8:12 am
Last Updated:Aug 24, 2016 8:15 am
It was brought to my attention this week that some people on AdultFriendFinder are of the mindset that you can't meet and make great friends since this is a SEX SITE and then if by some miracle you do become friends...never, evvvvvvvva, evvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvva mention the L word.....LOVE!

I had to think about this for a bit since I have some GREAT and AWESOME friends that I met here on AdultFriendFinder..both male and female. I express my LOVE for them every time that I speak with them or spend time with them.

I had to explain to these people that there are different types or levels of love. So we had a very lengthy conversation about LOVE and all its glory and levels.

There is the EROTIC LOVE or the feelings one gets when they see someone. They are attracted to their looks or their body. This is driven by sexual passion and desire. This is when you get the sexual feelings. Because the pull of this LOVE is so strong it leads to impulsive acts and many broken hearts.

Next we have the AFFECTIONATE LOVE or the friendship love. This is the LOVE that involves the mind. This is where you are best friends and you are not really sexually attracted to that other person. But there is loyalty or a sense of team pride. Maybe a better description is...the friend zone love!! LMAO

Then we get to the PLAYFUL LOVE. This is the LOVE that make your heart flutter, the flirting, the teasing and the first steps of falling in LOVE. This level is very important but often lost part of a long term it friendship or romantic or marriage.

The UGLY level is the OBSESSIVE LOVE. This is when you MUST have someone in your life...poor self-esteem and this is where the GREEN MONSTER of JEALOUSY enters into the relationship. STAY AWAY FROM THIS LEVEL AT ALL COST.

Last but certainly not least is the ENDURING LOVE. This is a LOVE that has ages, developed and matured over a period of time. You have a harmony and understanding because you have formed this over a period of time. This is the LOVE that is hardest to find.

So you can can find LOVE on AdultFriendFinder…it is just what level are you looking to obtain. The biggest issue is people spend so much time and energy trying to find LOVE...but never take the time to learn or maintain that LOVE.

I LOVE all of is just at what level if that LOVE???

Liar, Liar...pants on fire!!!
Posted:Aug 18, 2016 7:05 am
Last Updated:Aug 24, 2016 6:33 pm

~To lie is to hold something which one knows is not the whole truth to be the whole truth, intentionally.
~False statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood.
~Something intended or serving to convey a false impression; imposture.
~An inaccurate or false statement.
~The charge or accusation of lying.
~To speak falsely or utter untruth knowingly, as with intent to deceive.
~To express what is false; convey a false impression.

My inbox has been full lately of ladies that are so upset over being lied to by someone they have met on AdultFriendFinder. {It's funny that all of my real life friends put me in the role of advice giver also!!}

First and is a sex site....folks are going to lie. It is really that simple.

But some of these people have been "playing" or formed "friendships" with folks from AdultFriendFinder going on 8, 9 or 10 or more they expect more truths than lies from these people that they have met here on AdultFriendFinder because they have crossed that line from AdultFriendFinder online to Friends in reality.

The root to all of this is ...folks are still going to lie. It doesn't matter the reason or the occasion. Even if in the profile and first email....they say...I am married and I have and I am not leaving that situation.....ever. You have accepted this from day you feel like you should not be lied to.....they will still lie to you.

So I am going to try to help some of y'all out......

They don't want to hurt your feelings: They are sugarcoating or avoiding a volatile subject. At worst, it's a straight up lie to avoid drama and waterworks. Weak? Cowardly? Sure, but men live in the mindset of wins and losses, victories and defeats. What's the upside to being honest if it simply leads to a more difficult life with no perceived upside.

They don't want the drama: If not telling the truth is harmless enough and being honest will just cause drama, heartache and grief for both parties, why would a man want to do it? I'm not advocating the behavior and I hold honesty as a high virtue for myself, but part of looking at this requires us to be honest about human nature: Humans (men and women) want to make life easier for ourselves, not harder.

No perceived upside: If you want the truth and honesty, find a way to reward that behavior, not punish it by putting him through hell.

A Desire For Sex Is Why Men Lie: Most men realize that simply saying all he wants is sex is not always the most effective approach to getting it. It may work sometimes, but typically it will work against him. This is why men lie to get that ass. Sex can be a powerful drug, and as long as there are men who want it bad enough, then this will always be one of the reasons why men lie.

None of the reasons above are trying to validate why men lie. If your woman can't handle the truth, then understand "truth" is not the issue, but her inability to handle it is. If you have to lie for sex, then maybe you need to fall back from it. I'm not promoting your pursuit of it, but trust there are enough women who you can get sex from without all the unnecessary lies.

Men, understand you have to do better.

Women, understand the reasons above and eliminate contributing to the temptation of lies in the ways that you can.

Let us all create an environment where people can be open and honest and put an end to the unnecessary madness.


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